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I'm really frustrated with my best friend and I'm not sure what I'm gonna do about it so I came here to rant into the abyss. She said some hurtful things that I'm having a hard time letting go of. Every time we speak she comments about needing to get on track with her diet so that I don't pass her up. It sucks! I didn't realize that my role in our friendship was being the fat one and I guess it's important to her that it stay that way. She is also overweight but has never been morbidly obese. My current weight is probably about where her highest weight has been but she is less right now. Every time we speak she asks me how I'm doing with my weight loss and asks a lot of detailed questions most of which I'm happy to answer as we've been friends for 10 years. Then 2 weeks ago, she sent me a text saying that she doesn't want to talk to me right now because watching me lose weight and looking better is upsetting to her. She said it is triggering her eating disorder of which I was unaware. I responded compassionately even though I was upset and told her it was ok for her to be honest with me about her feelings. I expected to give her some time and space and see how things go but she texts me almost every day with something sad and horrible about missing her mom or depression or anxiety or her wife or her son's behavior problems and it feels like she's leaning really heavily on me. This might just be a season in our friendship were she needs more support than I do right now. But it's hard for me to hang in there when she says unsupportive things to me and then expects me to just keep responding to 2am texts. Luckily for both of us she lives in another state so she never has to see the look on my face when she makes those comments. I only told 5 people about my surgery: my mom, my 2 sisters, my husband and my best friend. She lives in another state and we probably only talk about once a month these days. I was counting on her as part of my support system. She is going through a lot, like all of us. She suffers from depression, struggles with money, has some family issues and lost her mom a year ago. I love her and I worry about her. It makes me sad that I feel like our friendship is not healthy for me.

Amazon.... @gaga26 Triple Calm is 3 magnesium salts that are more absorbable than typical magnesium found in most drugstores, esp after surgery. Plus the regular magnesium will give you diarrhea if you take too much.

Im so late but Child, block her number. She will try to drag you down with her because misery loves company.

What you are feeling is definitely normal. That's good that you talked to the nurse and she shared all that info. I'm 4 mos post sleeve surgery and still struggle psychologically, but it has improved quite a bit since the first few weeks. Because you aren't able to get appts with your psychiatrist very often, and he doesn't seem to specialize in this type of journey I recommend you find someone who does. Maybe the nurse you talked to can suggest someone. Continue reaching out on this forum. I've found it helps a lot. Hang in there.

Hello I had mine done the 29th.. Sent from my SM-G892A using BariatricPal mobile app

Can I take magnesium with my surgery being on the 15. I know I can't take aspirin. May I can talk to urgent care....lol I know what you mean about be that lady I falling and can't get up... Lol Sent from my LG-H871 using BariatricPal mobile app

My hubby is also the Nervous Nelly of our house. Remind yours that you've both been through this type of surgery before. Try to get him to focus on the future, not the present. What the two of you will be doing in a year, in 5 years, in 10 years. How does that future look without the surgery? Best of luck with your surgery!

It is. But it sounds like you are the only friend in this relationship. In recent times has she truly been a friend? If she has mainly been unkind, then you aren't moving on from a friend, you are getting out of a toxic relationship.

Thanks for saying that. Moving on from a friend is hard.

Naw, your joke about methadone is not offensive. I am not some fragile person that cannot take a joke. The only drug I ever struggled with was weed, I still love it. But sadly I cannot use it or it will consume me, all I will want to do is get high. And I don’t mean just a little high, I mean like semi coma high. I am an alcoholic to the bone, I cannot even have one drink or I will drink every day after that. The only option I have is to abstain and stay sober. I used to go to OA about 10 years ago. I never got really that active into it, but liked the meetings. I have found a meeting near my house, but haven’t gone yet. I am a food addict for sure, I will abuse food just like a drug.