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I agree. Sometimes, yes, it's hard to watch other effortlessly succeed while you struggle and fight for every lb/kg lost. This is where self-care needs to step in. Do only what helps and not what harms. But you have to know yourself enough to get that far.

Sounds like this WLS diet worked pretty good for a while. In the same place she used to be in earlier days when the diet she was on stopped working because the rewards weren't rolling in as fast as they did in the beginning (i. e. slower weight loss, stalls) and everything just seemed too hard and maybe even pointless. And you already seem to know this because you wrote: Indeed. What I did back in the days was reading what I could find about "normal eating". If you have access to counseling (and not only to these guys and dolls who'll tell you that their waiting list is at least about 1 year long) you might benefit from it. Are you? Or do you secretly wish for nothing more than getting a F*CKING break from all of this? (I can completely understand this wish.) It seems like you already went at least partly down that rabbit hole. --- I sometimes think WLS boards do more harm than good for some people. The comparing never seems to stop.

I think therapy will be super helpful for you, and I'm going to talk from my experiences with MY therapist. I understand what you're saying about missing the way you used to eat. From what I've worked through with my therapist, it's the ability to control what goes into my mouth. If I was having a bad day, if my abusive parents went off on me, I could gain control of my life again by eating an entire large pizza. If I was tired, if I felt like I wasn't going anywhere in life, I could eat an entire pasta bread bowl and cheese sticks. I could eat one, two three cheeseburgers because I wanted to, I was in control of how much I ate and went. That feeling of being full, of tasting that food over and over again, was what calmed me down. Unfortunately, like more instant forms of self-harm, it's an unhealthy coping skill. You haven't gained any control by eating two large Double Double meals with milkshakes. All you've done is postponed your time to deal with it. having surgery and having to be "forced" into a new way of eating takes this control away. You can't do what you used to do, so you feel like you're out of control. You are worth so much more than gorging yourself on food. You are worth working through your feelings. You deserve so much more than what your brain may be telling you, and I'm so proud of you. ❤️

I started at 463, and I'm at 285. I'm down 2 shirt sizes and 3 pants sizes. So, it's taken me losing 177 pounds to get down 2 shirt sizes. Just keep doing what you're supposed to be doing and the weight will come off.

Give yourself credit for all the weight lost. Amazing work! Stalls and gains can mess with your head. I had a 16 pound gain and worked it back down. I understand the fear of gain and losing control. No reason to beat yourself down. You have a small gain and you are ready to take control again. you said " I will fall into my old pattern of guilt, depriving myself, guilt, treating myself, guilt, eating all day, guilt, guilt, guilt. But here I am, three pounds above my lowest post op weight, guilty" Behavior change may be working on how you are talking to yourself. Change the negative statements you tell yourself about your weight. Be your biggest cheerleader. A therapist may be a good option to overcome these repeated patterns. Wishing you the best, Jenn

I am excited my puree stage starts on Thanksgiving day. I see some ground turkey with cauli mash and gravy being pureed into some sort of thanksgiving soup thing LOL.. Today i am 5 days post op. Almost feeling back to normal.. still slow on the walking, but getting all my liquids in! I am excited to try puree foods as well. another week and 2 days to go!

And like my era song We'll dance in the sunshine- We'll laugh every day. You've come so far in life, it's your SURGIBIRTHDAY-- go and become Reborn. We're waiting to see what,you become but we KNIW,it will be WONDERFUL!👍😝

I am almost there can't wait cream is so boring! PaulE

Perfect! I am happy about trying it for sure! Also, I am heading over to pinterest now too... I hope I can remember my login

Go get the new you!! Check in soon!