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((hugs)) So I feel and hear your concern. And I really hear that you love, respect, and honor her--but also that you have fear inside that the surgery has negatively impacted her/you in many ways. But I think you need some facts in order to review your premise, because the basic premise is flawed by personal bias that is mediated by fear. 1. Diet and exercise do not work. Ever. They are temporary fixes in an unaltered body and fewer than 5% can maintain a 10% weight loss over 5 years time. Fewer than 5%. To give perspective, even WITH altering the gut and surgery, I've heard doctors speak of 5 year results of maintaining the full weight loss at less than 5%. They count success if someone maintains a 50% weight loss over that same time frame. So weight rebound is REAL. This surgery isn't really WLS. It's weight maintenance surgery because it DOES help improve the odds that you can lose substantial amounts of weight and at least keep 50% of it off over 5 years. 2. You are used to seeing your wife morbidly obese. You are. And now you see her thin-ness and fear that she is thin and guant. Gaunt happens. Especially if you are older. But, give it 1 year. The fat re-apportions itself and gaunt features will fill out and soften. 3. All weight loss comes with muscle loss. The end. We must do strength training to rebuild muscle and tone. Everyone must--especially if they want to maintain the losses. 4. Yeah...some women lose libido with weight loss, especially if you are peri-meno or menopausal. It sucks...but should be temporary. 5. Personality and moods change with extreme weight loss--it's a process and a journey and it takes a while for us to get our heads "right". The best thing you can do is be super supportive and compliment her on how she looks and reassure her that you think she's smokin' hot. Also, woo her. Don't just "Hey mama, let's get it on." Women want romance, and caresses that lead nowhere other than to be made to feel special--to tell her you enjoy being close to her. Try titillating her mind and senses rather than the end game. Try doing that kind of stuff and see if her libido changes!!! 6. I can assure you that we do NOT get to the Morbid Obesity Ball due to character flaws--due to lacking self-discipline. In order to get there most of us have exerted MASSIVE amounts of will power, time, energy, and committment to yo-yo our way through our broken metabolism and I would claim that we have more willpower than you will EVER (as a normie) be able to comprehend. The End.

So I had rny at the end of July. I was eating around 700 calories a day and working to get my water in. About 2 weeks ago I began getting nauseous and vomiting after eating and was only getting around 300 a day. My surgeon did another EGD on Friday 9/21, enlarged a stricture a found a large ulcer. I felt much better over the weekend then early Monday morning I began vomitting large blood clots! My surgeon sent me to ER and I was in ICU for a day and a regular room all week long. I guess the ulcer eroded a vessel that needed clipped and I’ve been without food for the last week. I hope to go home tomorrow, I’ll be back on clear liquids and go through the progressive steps all over again. Not eating or drinking ANYTHING is really rough, especially while lying in the hospital and watching TV all day! Dr says ulcers like mine are rare but a potential complication. Lucky me, I’ll be on a gastric acid inhibitor for life. NBD, I just want to go home!

Pre or post op? Pre-op should be about 40% protein and 30/30%. I imagine you could also do 50% protein and 25/25%. Your current activity level could have an impact also. This is what my program stipulated.

Hi. I do not know how this works exactly.. but here goes! I have ALWAYS struggled with weight. my whole life has been yoyo diet.. I have tried everything, sometimes i have even been successful and lost a lot of weight but i can not manage to keep it off. I have hit a all time low in my life. I have decided to have a GASTRIC SLEEVE but i am struggling to decide what clinic to go to? I keep looking through fourms and reviews and i can not seem to pin point one or two clinics that make me feel 100% confident to go ahead and book a consultation. Can anyone help/share where they went and how they narrowed down their search? thank you

I'm right at 40 BMI if I don't stand up too straight when they measure height, so like you, I've been concerned about losing on the pre-surgery diet then getting declined. I checked to see how much water weighs, so plan to drink up prior to weigh in, but I love the idea of the fishing weights. too. It may be a moot point if I can't navigate the insurance maze. Very frustrating to do all the research, attend the seminars, make the decision, convince hubby it's a good idea, then learn after making appts that with Covered California Blue Shield, the closest approved hospital/surgeon is 6 hrs away. Good thing open enrollment is coming up.....

You're going to rock that swimming suit and make your sister green with envy. Embrace the positive changes that are coming your way. You'll be a much slimmer you and you'll feel more confident. Loose skin is part of the weight loss journey, but that's something that can be addressed at a later time and is much less of an issue than being obese.

here's a couple articles regarding soda after WLS: http://www.obesityhelp.com/articles/drinking-soda-after-wls-debunking-the-myth https://www.livestrong.com/article/347882-carbonated-drinks-after-a-gastric-bypass/ The key is that you don't want to drink liquid calories. Also, you want to be cautious on how carbonation affects you. If you decide to drink diet soda, you want to make sure it doesn't cause excess gas that gives you discomfort. This is especially important during the healing process, up to 3 months. Also, that you are avoiding drinking and eating at the same time (which is the same for all liquids). Some programs allow carbonation, some do not.

No updates...I guess he's no longer worried about his wife...

Hola Mili, muchas felicidades por ese logro. Me encanto encontrar este post y conocer tu historia. Soy nueva en este grupo y apenas aprendiendo a navegar la pagina, me gusta mucho este website ya que es de mucho beneficio encontrar la ayuda y soporte de personas que estan pasando por el mismo proceso. Te cuento que mi situacion es parecida a la tuya. Tengo 33 años y desde los 23 e sufrido de Diabetes II y ahora precion alta. Y no es nada facil tener que depender de tantos medicamentos para seguir viviendo. Por eso e tomado la desicion de someterme a esta cirugia y poder tener la posibilidad de mejorar mi salud. Tengo mi cita con el cirujano en 12/20/17 y te cuento que los nervios me tienen al 100%. Ya sabes la anciedad de que nunca e tenido un cirujia mayor y temor a el proceso de operacion y recuperacion. Pero ver tu historia y lo bien que te ves me dan fuerzas de saber que aunque el camino es dificil Dios me ayudara a sobrepasar esto y lograr una mejoria en mi salud. Por lo que vi tu cirujia ya paso mas de un año, me gustaria saber como te sientes? que tal a sido mantener el peso? que otros ostaculos has tenido que enfrentar para mantenerte? Gracias mil por compartir tu historia.