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Was reading the "mourning the person you saw in the mirror" thread, and while I don't miss myself as a chunky monkey...there is something that I am kinda mourning. The last time I saw myself skinny....I was in my 20's Now, I'm looking a lot thinner...but wait a minute....where the hell is that 20 something girl? In my mind...skinny me was eternally linked to young me...and it's an adjustment to realize that even though I'm thinner now, I'm 46...not 26. And I know that sounds weird...but it's like my only reference for skinnier me...is way back in the 90's. Was I really expecting to look 26 again? Nah... But it's different, you know? It's out of alignment with my memories of the only time I experienced fitness. A fit 46 looks way different than a fit 26. 46 year old people have a few wrinkles. We droop a little here and there. And it's ok:) But yeah...kissing youth goodbye is something I never did as a fatter person. Was too busy worry about carrying around 100 extra pounds to think about those 20 extra years. Isn't that weird?

Don't let this selfish person rain on your parade. You do what is right for you and take the earliest you can that your manager approves. One thing I have learned is that if you keep putting your life on hold for others, they always expect it. It is the summer of Nnoi!

How are you doing? I hope you are well share before and after and tell me how you are going. Sugery Weight: 265 lb Current Weight: 188 lb Goal Weight:150 lb Lost -77 lb Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

I think about this too, especially since I turned 60 earlier this year. I know I will never return to my 26 year old size 7 125 lb self. I just want to look and more importantly feel as good as I possibly can for the age I am now. I do see more wrinkles and sagging and fully intend to have a face/neck lift once I have reached my goal. But I am still not going to be the same young woman I was back then and that is okay.

Wishing you smooth sailing from here on out! So glad the bleeding was caught early and addressed.

I’m officially six months post op (RNY 11/7/17) and couldn’t be happier with my decision to have weight loss surgery. It’s been an uphill battle with finding new meals and keeping up with diet and exercise but this new tool that I’ve been blessed with has made it a lot easier and I’m confident that I will go on to reach my goals. HW 356 SW 321 CW 221 GW 170

Best wishes for a smooth surgery and a speedy recovery!

Good luck! See you over on the post-op forum!

It surely does not But for surgery purposes I would suggest switching to edibles to give your lungs a break and then you can safely tell them you have stopped smoking HW 270 SW 238 CW 188 VSG 11/7 [emoji471][emoji471][emoji471]

Boy, you came to the right group to ask that question and get honest answers. Lol I'm married 28 yrs n it's been 1 heck of a roller coaster! I know my partner sometimes better than myself, so I choose not to tell him anything until I was approved and in my 2 week pre op liquid diet. Sad, yes, but necessary because when you live with passive aggressive or insecure partners, you have to be your own advocate. (you must read the thread, "I want to throat punch my husband" just substitute husband for partner n you will see it not so uncommon. ) I already know there r issues there. I agree with everyone, you need to do what is right for you when it is right for you. In the meantime, be strong in yourself and your decision to take care of yourself and let your partner know that up front. A week ago my husband was buying eggplant parm heroes for dinner for me while I'm on pre op liquid diet and not being supportive at all, questioning my decision and not agreeing with it...n last night he laid in bed with me and read through my entire folder and helped me put together a shopping list for my post op 4 weeks. Give her time to adjust and you just keep holding firm, she might just surprise you! If not, you have a wealth of support here with people that know u r doing the right thing ???? Good luck????