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Hey guys! I am super grateful for the surgery and the opportunity to get my life back but today I just feel sad for some reason. I have been moody and emotional (poor kids lol). I starting questioning if I did the right thing or if I made a mistake with the surgery. I was feeling sad that I would never be able to eat certain things again and almost bitter. I know it’s these foods that got me to 340lbs in the first place but I always thought that I could have everything back but just in much smaller portions. I’m not even talking about junk food or soda or anything like that. Good riddance to those things. I feel like I’m never gonna be able to eat my mom’s special dishes again or my Vietnamese food or just regular meals again. I end up feeling more depressed because then I feel ungrateful and like a complainer. Geez I just need to get my crap together! I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening

Been there. Once my kids started toasting bread and making pizza... I had to fight not to break down. I just kept reminding myself of what my goals were, over and over, what and why I decided to go with the bypass. It's totally normal. And it does go away. You got this!

Things to pay attention to: - Your BMR (Basal Metabolic Rate), this is the amount of calories your body needs in a day just to exist (think in a coma, alive but not moving). BMR drops as we lose weight and as we get older. So it's something that should be calculated and monitored with WLS. https://www.active.com/fitness/calculators/bmr - Your water intake, you stated that you try to hit your protein targets, which is great, but your body just cannot break down fat if there isn't enough water. - 3.5 miles 2x a week isn't near enough. The minimum basic goal is 30 mins of targeted physical activity EVERY DAY, for WLS, it really should be 60+. Also, running is great, but running will **ONLY** lean out muscle, if you want to burn more fat minute to minute, you need to be building muscle mass. - Without seeing (or being a doctor specifying in plastics) It's entirely possible to have 20 lbs of excess skin - Have you had your body fat measured? I'd be interested to see what your lean mass to fat mass numbers are. I'm 5'9 currently at 258.9, 37.2% body fat, My scale calculates that I have 162.7 lbs of lean muscle and 96.2 lbs of fat. I'm shooting for 200 lbs, so if I do make it to 200, I'll still have 37.3 lbs of fat that *could* be worked off if I really wanted to, this doesn't count skin weight though. If you are really stuck/stalled and frustrated, try re-doing the pre-surgical diet to "reset" things. I also highly suggest starting to track your intake and burn again, if you are burning more than you are taking in, you *WILL* lose weight.

If it means anything, I along with all of the others on the site, will be here for you. You can do this!!!!

My surgery was 3 months ago, I had the gastric sleeve and I'm still sick. I have to keep going back to soft diet. Will this ever end?

That's no good! Have you talked to your surgeon / surgical team about this yet? Have they checked for a stricture?

I'd suggest posting a daily example of what you eat in a typical day. Also, include exercise and activity levels. We can't help by what you've given us to go by. I suggest using a food diary app, so we can see your MACROS, ect.

It does get easier. I was "lucky" to almost have slight case of food aversion from week 3-7. So nothing looked appealing and it was easier that way and even the sight or smell made me sick. However, when my appetite came back, I didn't crave the same foods. I'm over 4 months post op and I actually, had some potato chips over the weekend. I felt so sick, and I threw the bag away. So even when I "indulge" my pouch slaps my hand and discourages me from doing that ever again. A lot of people go through emotional struggles after surgery. I'd recommend establishing with a therapist and talking out the changes to your body. You will inevitably have changes in family, friends, and co worker dynamics. It is a lot to juggle.

What are the exact criteria on your insurance plan for surgery? Check the policy. Email from their online sight and ask what would deny surgery, ask specific questions - 'if the bmi is 39 and no comorbidities, ' if I gain or lose any weight in the process', 'if already approved and scheduled, what would cause a denial?' I say use email rather than phone because there will be a written record. BUT first, call your surgeon's office and speak to the insurance specialist - that person has experience with your ins company firsthand and would know about this 'nurse-phone call' thing. I wish you luck and success.

A picture explains better than my stats.