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28 days ago I had my sleeve done. After 1 year of getting ready for it, the day finally arrived. My significant other well lets just say he isnt very emotionally intelligent and over the last 13 years I have been with him through 11 medical procedures he needed some were in hospital some were out patient. I always put him first , and took care of him what ever he needed. I am really getting very frustrated I feel he is just in my way of healing now, not physically but mentally and emotionally. He is not emotionally supportive at all, I really am in this all alone. I try to stay positive, I have made a major life change and rather than him having my back he would rather rant and rave with his emotional outbursts. I try to be patient as I know he struggles with some mental health issues. There are just those days when I want to say Seriously do you have any clue what I have just gone through and what I continue to go through. I am so drained when I wake up in the morning,. I need time to just get my head on right. I immediately take care of our Dog, getting her fresh water, food and take her out to do her business. I then try to get my vitamins and meds in me, drink some liquid and take my blood glucose. But then here he comes complaining there is nothing to eat for breakfast...........which translates to he wants his huge hot breakfast eggs, bacon, toast or grits etc which now just the smell makes me ill. If he doesnt get his way then he is just moody and very short tempered all day. So to avoid the constant emotional rollercoaster, i stop what I am doing and make breakfast, I sometimes then forget to take meds or vitamins, it takes me longer to get ready in the morning, not as quick since the surgery as I was before. Yes I know I should kick him to the curb ( and I only stated a mild case ) but financially I cant afford to do that right now, I am really stuck with him. SORRY just needed to say this "out loud " I am just emotionally exhausted from him. Thank you anyone that reads this. I appreciate the listening ear

Try to keep all the reason you are doing this in the front of your mind. Do not let yourself dwell on the very very small 1% complication rate. This is a very safe surgery and you will be fine and so much happier when you get this part behind you. it is the what ifs that will drive you nuts. try to stay busy - 8 kids that should not be hard

Yay!!!! I'm so excited for you!

I'm so sorry that this is so difficult for you. It's not easy under the best of circumstances. My prior experience is telling me that whatever problem you're having, he can play his trump card (mental issues) and make it all about his needs again. Is there anyone else close by that you can turn to for support? Are there support group meetings, a pastor at church? A friendly ear on-line is fine, but sometimes you just need a real-life hug. I hope it gets better for you soon. ((hug))

Congrats on the successful surgery and recovery so far, also on the weight loss!!!

So I’m unfortunately no stranger to UTIs, had a handful in my life. They were no fun pre surgery. BUT I have a UTI now (6 months post op) and I swear it’s worse somehow. And it just crept up on me. One ER visit at 2am and 2 medicines later I’ll be on the road to health again, but public service announcement—stay hydrated and all that other jazz to prevent infections, this is Miserable 😭

I found Parmesan crips at whole foods in the specialty cheese section. I use them as chips and eat it with hummus, guac, bean dip etc. All my other high protein snacks are a bit boring after awhile like...smokehouse or sweet thai chili almonds and dried cranberries, spicy pork cracklins, jack links prime rib jerky, quest protein chips, salami/pepperoni and cheese

for a heating pad, use a cherry stone pillow, the stones in the pillow act like a massage on the stomach that increases the blood flow that would decrease cramps.

Pretty normal - go for a hunt on these threads about the three week stall, and the three month stall and you’ll see they are both common! It will pass, just stick to your plan. 50lbs in 12 weeks is amazing, of course! No diet gets you that! Bit hard to tell cos your profile doesn’t give us your weight or goal - but rest assured, stalls are normal. I often find I lose SIZE in a stall!

Nice work