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There is rather an ebb and flow to friendships when you are younger (I'm 65). You each enter and leave different seasons of your life, and the timing is not always perfect. I think its awesome you have plans to meet new people! You are a very pretty young woman, and it may be that your friends are a tad jealous about your change, but maybe they just aren't sure you are the same person. As you have new interests, are more active, you will have a group of friends that enjoy the same things, and only know this new, healthier version of you. And hopefully, you will be able to retrieve a few of the old gang.

I was debating whether or not to sign up for one, but I asked if my sister wanted to do one with me and she and my brother in law both were interested, so I decided to go for it. I'm excited! I have been running more lately and I already pretty much do 5Ks every time I run, but I haven't done an actual "race" since I was 14. When I registered, the application asked if I had an inspiring story, so I said that I was once 400 pounds after battling a decade-long depression, but have now beat depression and lost 180 pounds.

Today is one week since my surgery date and I am happy to report I am 10lbs down!!! I am beyond thrilled and although I know I won't be losing 10lbs every week it is a great start because it hasn't been easy and has been very painful but it all is definitely worth it!!!

I’m sure I’m not alone in this as I’ve watched so many YouTube videos of people this happens to. Sadly after surgery , people in my life seemed to disappear. Maybe it’s all in my head and they are just busy? I realize that food is a huge part of life and most social events, but my friends have seemed to ignore me after surgery. Not in the beginning but I haven’t seen any of them 1 month post op.. it seems like everyone wants that “ token fat friend” in their life to make them feel better... I’ve lost about 40lbs, but I’m still the same down to earth girl. Yes, I can’t eat much, but damn... where did everyone go? Hoping it’s all in my head.. I’m never insecure or paranoid.. and if they wanna leave- their loss. I realize nobody secretly wants their friend thinner and more beautiful than them.. oh well. I’m not like that.

Congrats!!! Good luck on the racing. I love running, but I haven't signed up for a race yet.

Don't worry about it. If they have moved on, well, it is their loss. You just need to take care of you right now. It would be nice to have their support, but you don't need it. People grow apart and move on. It happens to the best of friends. If you were the "token" fat friend, as you stated, you always deserved better anyway. You are going to do amazing, but stay the same on the inside. You will definitely meet new people that will be a healthy addition to your new lifestyle if you put yourself out there. As other posters stated, support groups are great for meeting people that are experiencing things that you have, are or will experience in the future. Good luck, and keep up the hard work!

Hi dengle, It seems that insurance companies have standard pre-reqs that you will need to meet, all of which cost $$. Here's the list I had to address: lab work 6 monthly of dietician appts upper endoscopy cardiac eval (if you are over 50) -- stress + echo psychological consult radiology exams (chest xray, ab ultrasound, upper GI) sleep study Its an intimidating list, no doubt people on the surgery fence won't go the distance. And you find stuff thats wrong with you in the process, which isn't fun, LOL. For instance, now I know I have a hietal hernia, GERD and sleep apnea! I got coverage information in writing from insurance company upfront. Edited to add -- we have tons of men in the group nutrition classes, so maybe the one you did was an anomaly?

I take two Bariatric Advantage calcium chews a day. It's wonderful to chew something and they taste great! Lol

Congratulations! On being able to lose the required amount and on your surgery. 1 week from tomorrow, I will be sitting on the loser's bench with you.

Your stomach will let you know! Well at least for me it has! My throat gets knotted up,as if I had food stuck, and I feel the food siting right on my stomach this happens with just a few spoons of whatever I'm eating. I wait about 15-20min to continue my meal! Is not a pretty fun feeling feeling full and having to throw up