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I am 9 days out from my 1 year surgiversary and I decided to re-live my 10 day pre-surgery liquid diet. (started yesterday) My main reason is so that I never forget the struggle that got me here, but a reset, jump-start can't hurt either, right? I'm 35lbs from my goal weight. I'm grateful for living and can't wait to see how my life continues to change as I continue to lose. The only thing that concerns me is working out while on the liquid diet. I am in the gym 1 hour per day 6 days per week. I am getting about 105g of protein per day. Obviously, this "memorial diet" isn't required so I'm not going to risk my health for it, but it just feels like something I need to do.

I am a medical professional and I would say to stay away from the traditional BMI chart. It does not take into consideration body type or percent of lean muscle. I use the meter my trainer has which tells me I am at 23% body fat. That might sound like a big number but professional athletes and marathon runners are in the teens, so take that into consideration and I will go with it.

If it feels right.. then do it! It won't hurt anything. Just make sure this is a celebratory endeavor and not some sort of self-flagellation. I would recommend adding either low sodium v8 or coconut water because most protein shakes don't provide the electrolytes you need. If you feel badly then you can always stop and re-evaluate. Congrats on your 1-year surgiversary!

This board is full of people that surpass the averages. Fingers crossed that we can join them, Fluff. I like to have a solid, realistic goal.. and when I get there, then move the bar lower. Who knows.. maybe we'll be thrilled with 170 or 180! Lol. What I don't want to do is convince myself that 150 will come easily, then beat myself up if I don't get there. Keep in mind, the nadir weights on that chart are at 28 months postop on average.. so weight can continue coming off for well over a year postop.

Saying prayers. It sucks. Now what everyone doesn't want...duh duh dunnnhhhhhh--yes, that's right! It's time for the "Advice from a Pre-Surgery Newbie" Show, starring? FluffyChix! Ok, so now for some practical advice. You are a medical professional--so you must be aware of this stuff--if not, get to know it! 1. Take baby steps. Begin again. Today. Right now. Only focus on the next bite. Today your one job is to dump the carbonated diet drinks. Dump em baby. Use LaCroix as a sub if you must. 2. Tomorrow or when you feel you can, work on the next step...make your snacks healthy and filling: 2oz of protein, or PB3s, or 2oz of GS apple + 2tbsp peanut butter (I'm presurg and this snack right here fills me for 3 hours). 3. Next step, STOP drinking while eating. You can do this. It's actually the easiest step. Make it the first step if you want!!! 4. Next step, go back to eating protein first with every meal. Follow the baby step meal order: protein, non-starchy veg, high carb bs, dessert. 5. Next step, get rid of all the sugar and carby nonsense. Lose the desserts and high carb nonsense. Dump all the sugar from your diet. Tighten up your daily food intake. REALLY this is the fish or cut bait time. It may take several days...get rid of the CRAP. 6. Go back to planning your meals for 1 day. Weigh and measure everything. All. The. Things. Each day, recommit to weighing and tracking (and planning--don't forget the planning) for that day and that day only. Each day. Every day. Recommit. 7. Start walking every day--just around your house, inside your house if necessary...just 5 minutes if that's all you can do. Work up every day to more. And that's as simple as it gets. Don't eat within 3-4 hours of bedtime. Sleep elevated. Make low acid choices. Chew the crap outta stuff and makes notes on what makes the GERD and your esophagus feel worse. Take your PPIs. Treat yourself kindly and with respect. Congratulate yourself on getting through some serious ****. Congratulate yourself on graduating and improving your life. Go back to basics. Each day plan and log your food. Only focus on taking the very next BEST bite. Don't forget to surrender to your higher power. Read about CBT and food addiction. It's an awesome tool for overeating or eating with abandon. And lastly, don't put off a revision if it's called for with the GERD. Just jump in and get it done. Don't waste any more of your life on this. But you do need to get the overeating/eating off plan stuff together cuz as you know, you can eff any surgery if you're determined to do so. Do OA or Greysheeters. Go to therapy. Just concentrate on changing one thing at a time. Take baby steps and you can turn your life around. This is exactly how I backed into starting my new life on the pre-surgery plan. Before I could even do my plan, I had to slowly and gradually back into it until I had strung together so many successful days that I'd built momentum and resolve. Resolve and commitment grow exponentially with success. The more you see the scale move (or whatever your marker of success may be), the stronger the resolve to stay on plan. Good luck. If I can do this, you can do this. I'm the queen of recidivism. I practically wrote the book on it.

Thank you so much for your response. Honestly everything you said hit home and I really appreciate your input. I'm the type of person who doesn't reach out for help and tries to do things on their own. I'm just at a loss and I needed someone to tell me to not fu** things up for myself. I feel like I'm headed downhill and I have no brakes to stop and fix the problem... at least that's how it feels in my head. I realize now that I do have a problem and I am going to make time tommorow and call my surgeons office and explain what I'm going through and get a referral to a therapist. I don't want to fail. I'm saying this with tears in my eyes. I reeeally don't want to fail. Again thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement. God bless you. Sent from my SM-N910C using BariatricPal mobile app

Doesn't it feel amazing?! I'm just now beginning to get into fashion for the first time in my life. Sometimes I have to do a double-take when I look at the size I'm trying on. Very rewarding.

I will agree with what @Berry78 said. Complacency is sometimes a symptom of low level depression. And as a parent and wife you are a caretaker, and we sometimes neglect our own needs and feel guilty asking for more or examining our own issues - 'I have to make dinner, I have to drive kids to sports and I don't have time to relax, or even think about myself.' I take wellbutrin and it has made a huge difference, it has few side effects and litlle to no withdrawal if you want to stop them.

I suspect, based on a lot of what you said, that you don't believe simply sitting there and talking will make that much of a difference. So why carve a chunk of time and effort out of your day to do it. Anxiety is EXHAUSTING, and you have no energy because of it. You will pick up the phone because you are going to see if meds might help. Medication, combined with therapy, might be just the leg-up you need.

Yeah it's sugar free it might be called somthing else in the world but he we call in cordial squash or juice. It's a standard drink in the UK and the sugar free has virtually any calories. My dietation said to drink it.