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I'm going to be extremely extremely honest here. This is actually going to be really hard for me to say. I think the weight loss surgery can change the relationship in both good and bad ways. I've seen/heard a lot of people break up or get divorced after the surgery and I wondered why. I'm only 2 months post op and having relationship issues and I'm starting to have an epiphany. Do I love my boyfriend? YES. However, now that i'm losing the weight and gaining my confidence back...sometimes I ask myself, was I settling for less than what I deserve because I didn't think I could find better? Did I let my weight and my body determine how I should be loved for the last three years and accept things I didn't deserve in the relationship because I thought I was not worthy of better love because, who would want me? My boyfriend thinks I will leave him once I get thinner. I had a friend who had the surgery years before me and told me "don't let a man keep you fat to keep you around". So when my boyfriend tells me I don't need to lose more weight, her words come into my mind...maybe he wants me bigger so that I don't leave...My hormones are also going crazy right now since surgery and I'm emotional and crazy some days and we fight so hard that i'm just emotional drained and exhausted and don't have the energy to fight for my relationship some days. On the other hand, this surgery has done some good for my relationship as well. Each time my boyfriend notices my body is changing and I'm getting a little smaller, the way he looks at me...with pride, and love and appreciation and always tells me how beautiful I am and am becoming...it makes me happy. He saw my strength after surgery and how brave I was. I think he's falling in love with me even deeper than before after my weight loss surgery, however, I don't know if I can say the same. There's days where we are so connected and I am so freaking in love with the man, and then there's other days where I feel like walking away. There were issues before the surgery but I think i'm now opening up my eyes as I'm coming into my new skin and just don't want to accept the sh*tty things for the rest of my life. We deserve happiness. We deserve unconditional love. We deserve the absolute best. Our sizes shouldn't determine the size of happiness we think we should get.

During the liquid phase I ordered a soup and didn't worry about finishing it. Tonight I ordered a 2 egg taco omelet with cottage cheese. I managed about half of the omelet (not much of the filling,) and a couple nibbles of the cottage cheese. The leftovers will be breakfast and lunch for tomorrow. I eat slow enough that I don't have to spend half the meal watching my companions eat, which is nice. My boyfriend and I plan to go in on meals together. American serving sizes are plenty generous so my maybe 4 ounces isn't going to make him go hungry, lol. The hardest parts for me so far have been remembering to not drink with my meal, and not getting so caught up in conversation that I miss the 'satiated' point and go straight into 'full.'

Eating is very important. I've heard great things about Smooth Moves tea for constipation, also I've had good results with Benefiber and sugar free fiber gummies. All bodies are different, sometimes diabetes is completely resolved after surgery, sometimes not, sometimes only after a certain amount of weight has been lost. My friend was insulin dependent for 10 years before surgery and was completely off it and any other meds within 6 months of surgery. Try to get your walking in, it will help prevent muscle atrophy (you need your muscles to process glucose properly) and help move things along in the downstairs as well. Have faith, follow the path, and trust that a healthier you is going to be the result. Getting on meds now does not mean you'll be on them forever, and ending up on less meds in a healthier body is not a bad option for a result.

I'm currently going through the preop process. I met with a nutritionist at the beginning of last week, and she wanted me to practice the post op diet.. pretty much what I'll be eating from 3 months out of surgery and for the rest of my life. The plan is to meet next Monday and hopefully, I'll be done with all my pre-op requirements. I'm trying. I started gradually decreasing my fat and sugar intake, threw out massive amounts of food that I will not be eating, stocked up on Protein shakes. It's going ok, but I am SO cranky. I get that detoxing off sugar can make a person snippy, I just think it's a combination of sugar detox, having to change my eating pattern, reflecting on my history of poor food choices, and mourning. I gotta say, I am not a fun person to be around right now. I'm determined to get through it, but for now I feel like I need to warn people.

@Apple1 You are my inspiration !!!! I'm 1-week post -op and I,m down 10 pounds and 17 lbs from pre-op for a total of 27 lbs.OMG . I will continue to visit your page for encouragement and positive example of perseverance. YOU ROCK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Had an NSV yesterday. I ran the best mile of my life. I was always very slow, still am, but much faster than I once was. I'm pretty proud of my 17 minute mile. Now to push to get down to 10 minutes.

Picture from January 2017 : 231lbs Picture from July 2017: 183lbs Goal weight : 139lbs

Talk with a therapist. It is my guess that you are sabotaging yourself. There is a reason deep down you are doing this and your need to meet this issue head on before you have surgery. Surgery isn't a cure, but a tool, as I'm sure you know. Getting your head right about food is the other big part. Also, talk with your RD. Are you tracking your food intake? Write every bite down. Every bite - including tasting for seasoning while you are cooking. That might provide you with some insight as to where things are going wrong. Best of luck

Hi Karen, Welcome! I was sleeved a year ago this month and have lost over 200 pounds from my highest weight. I have about another 200 pounds to go but am much more confident that I can get there than I was before surgery. It is fairly simple if not necessarily easy to do well. Pre-op, I weaned myself off of carbonation and caffeine. My suggestions for success: Do everything your team asks you to do in and out of the hospital. Follow your program. Track your food. Make sure you get in all of your Protein, Make sure you get in AT LEAST 64 oz of Fluid. (You won't be able to do this immediately after surgery but it is important that you do your best. The sooner you can get in all of your protein and fluid, the sooner you will feel better, Avoid starches, added sugars (especially high fructose corn syrup), and fried foods. Take your Vitamins and supplements as directed. Exercise. And, learn to embrace the inevitable stalls. Keep us posted on how you are doing.

hey Tex good thought, thinking ahead about what you are gonna do about dating finding someone who is "fit", is ok - healthy eating is important to them - so you probably wouldn't be around that much junk food Finding another sleever is a great idea there are support groups you can find (doc/NUT) can help you you could possibly meet some nice lady there having things (like the sleeve) is great to have in common can help/support each other - talk about what to eat how much you both love the Protein shakes meeting another guy could also be beneficial - talk about certain common issues that YOU men have!!! there are many husbands/wives - or sisters/sisters et al - that get sleeved at the same time, and have that great support so, yes, IMO finding another "partner" in crime is great good thoughts on surgery next month good luck kathy