Wow, that's some nerve asking a question of the sort. Even if he was trying to joke, but it doesn't sound like it. My encouragement for you is to find a way to let negative comments roll off your back and not take it to heart. It's VERY HARD to do, because words can slice and dice us up, but if this is how people are in your community (area), than that's maybe what you might need to try to do??? Fight the depression, it wants to leave you in despair and you're too priceless to be wallowing in the dark. Everyone is.