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My partner and I have this issue, so I feel you. Early on I hated it. It absolutely pissed me off. I found that a conversation about it and my telling him that it bothered me, and asking him to be understanding, helped. He still makes the occasional comment, but he listens when I explain. And that's supportive. I think he is doing his best to support me, and now I welcome it because I can be out of control if I'm honest - but people will never truly understand it, or if they do, they are not us. I just try not to judge it. I gotta do what I gotta do.

I agree...this may be his way of showing support and trying to help you be successful. Personally, I asked my husband to help me stay in check and this seems similar to some of the things he does to help. I know ultimately it is all up to me but having him give me a nudge in the right direction gets me thinking and sometimes helps me make even better choices. One thing you could try is telling him, in a very straightforward way, exactly what kind of support you want and what really makes you feel support from him. That way he doesn't have to guess what you want and accidentally show his support in a way that doesn't translate to what you need. Tell him what he CAN do to be helpful. Examples: "It really makes me feel loved and supported when you compliment me or notice how hard I've been working" or " When you point out a positive change in me, I find it very motivating" Sent from my SM-G900T using BariatricPal mobile app

I am scheduled for June 26th and am wondering if it is safe to travel the next week. I would be packing shakes and broth and such, but I'm wondering if that is pushing myself too hard after surgery. I've contacted my Dr's office and asked if I could do my one week post-op that Friday, June 30th. With the next week being Fourth of July, I'd like to be away from neighborhood barbeques and the socializing. I'd be within a few hours of home in case I needed to go in. For those of you who have been through it, do you think it's doable? I wouldn't drive. I'd just be the passenger and it would mainly be hanging out watching my son play. I appreciate your advice. Thanks!

I GET you for sure!! My personality is like this: DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! I have always had just a little bit of rebellion running in my veins!! If someone trys to push me I get ornery. I WIL do the opposite of what you say!! I resent the heck out of somweone telling me I can't eat that!!! But...I am horrible about this aspect with my hubby. He gets mad everytime. I ask him what are you doing? What are you going to eat? While he is in the kitchen, and he HATES this because others have critzied him on what he is eating!! I just want to know so if I want to eat it too. LOL Mind you we have been married for 43 years. LOL You would think I would remember this. LOL Another thing he does is he will buy all kinds of junk food when he starts his diet. This makes me so upset!! He is living his fantasy thru me. I have told him so many times that I don't want or need this junk!!! Yesterday I told him that he wants me to get fat again!! Of course he said no but I know he likes his women thicker. Oh tthe hells of the housewifes!!!!

Congratulations! You look fantastic and what an amazing trip.

Yeah, we had that long convo this very morning.......all good. 🤔💖🌞🌹

This surgery is one of the reasons I had this surgery. No period for over a year unless medically induced. I was hoping I woulf get one this month because I hate having to take pills for it to come. Alas nothing. I guess I should justvtake my progesterone and carry one. HW 420 SW 347 CW 327 Sleeved April 10, 2017

It sucks! My acne has also flared up - it's very clear my body is going through hormonal changes. Happy to be getting healthier but it is starting to get annoying.

I really like seeing someone switch doctors and take control of their healthcare. Medicine in America is a for profit business. If they can drag you through 6 months of visits and then do surgery when medical weight loss fails and they know it will fail. They get to double dio and milk your insurance. It is more cost effective for your insurance to get you to surgery as soon as possible. Congrats on the adoption. My grandparents adopted my mom in their 50s and I am so grateful they did. They had so much love to share. Older parents make wonderful parents. Thank you for adopting.

That's crazy expensive! I'm from Canada and I paid for parking lol...okay I know annoying [emoji4] but I did have to do 10 months of pre-op seeing nutritionists, surgeon, social workers, ecterra... it was a lot of appointments. And my taxes pay for health care so I'm paying lots!