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I'm pre-op. I started in January and I'm here for my 3rd weigh in. I lost 9.5 lbs at my last weigh in. I lost 3.5 lbs in about 6 weeks since. So in total I've lost 13 lbs since my first appointment. So that's overall good. So why do I still feel like I've failed and so disappointed in myself? I spent the last 3 weeks at my parents house where I got no support... and actually I left last night due to being unable to emotionally handle being there any longer. (I have my own house but got a new job in my hometown and to help with the transition I was staying there with my kids). I will commute. I will have better and healthier foods again. I think I'm feeling so hurt with the lack of support because my brother just lost 85 lbs thru change in diet and exercise and they accommodated his diet by making healthy meals and gifting him a high quality treadmill. I assumed they would make healthy meals for me as well... no wait. I didn't assume. My mom told me she would help by making those healthy meals, but no... I would try to make something only I could eat since I wasn't interested in the cream based meals and a stick of butter in the sauce type stuff. Only to be confronted with mom tears and a good helping of guilt. My clothes fit differently now so I had hoped that my portion control worked. It sort of did but not with results that I had hoped to have. There so many emotions tied to my weight. My parents are relatively healthy... my brother and I were adopted and struggled with weight since our teen years. My mom questioned my involvement with Mayo and questioned if it is even necessary since I'm losing on my own now... then gasped when I told her my stats, which made me immediately feel defensive. I kept my composure but packed our things and left as soon as our discussion ended. 11pm my father calls to tell me how immature I am and how much of a disappointment I am. Forget that I am successful and fully employed as well as working 2 other part-time jobs not because we need the money, but because it's my passion. He also dug into my husband, who was diagnosed with cancer last June and underwent horrendous treatment, but he's a lazy pos in his eyes because he didn't (shocker) mow the lawn and put that responsibility on my 30-year-old-able-bodied-85-lbs-less-brother. I'm just hurt and shocked at my father reaching out to me to tell me to 1) be more insightful to know when my mother isn't meaning to criticize me 2) be more mature than my mother and handle her going off on me with grace and not to react and 3) accept the way she treats me and roll over and take it without changing the family gatherings because sweeping her crap under the table and acting like it didn't happen is easier on them. I didn't eat anything to sabotage my progress. I am making progress.

1) be more insightful to know when my mother isn't meaning to criticize me Fuck That. 2) be more mature than my mother and handle her going off on me with grace and not to react Fuck That. 3) accept the way she treats me and roll over and take it without changing the family gatherings because sweeping her crap under the table and acting like it didn't happen is easier on them. Fuck That. This may be a mother/daughter thing. My wife was treated the same way by her mom until I told her that what her mom said was complete bullshit, and the only one she ever had to please was herself. You need to know that as well. It simply does not matter what other people think/say, and I don't give a damn if they are 'family', or a spouse. If they do not support you in what you are doing, then do you really need them in your life? So many people say 'But they are family, and family is family' piss on that. Being related to someone does not give them an excuse to make you feel like crap. Since you expressed how you felt, and they did not care, then why on earth should you care about them? There will be others on this board posting in the vein of family is family and asking you to forgive, but I would strongly advise you to focus on yourself, your husband, and your kids. On a separate note, high hive for losing the weight pre-op! It will definitely help you out with not only the surgery, but give you a big boost post-op as well!! Keep going!

I am 18 days post-op and these are my orders: Day 1-2 (in hospital) clear fluids Days 3-9: full liquids Days 10-16: puréed foods Days 17-30 soft foods Day 31 solid foods. When I went for my post op appointment at day 16, my doctor said I can pretty much eat anything, starting off with softer foods, take very small bites at first. Especially smaller bites for meat, and chew, chew, chew, chew. He did say to stay away from hard to digest foods a little while longer, like asparagus, celery, and nuts. I am going slowly, one new food at a time.

This is a reminder to me to treasure my second chance through wls, I wanted to share. A.coworker needed to lose 17 lbs in five weeks in order to qualify for special training (she's in the military). She dropped the weight through plastic wraps, zero carbs, steam room, something called laser Lipo, and a weight loss drug she bought in Mexico-- some kind of amphetamine . She met the weight but was unable to do complete her physical training because she collapsed. She went to the hospital and her heart is arrythmic and the IVs for fluid have been difficult because she is dehydrated. She had a staph infection and developed energy to the antibiotic she was given. It's awful! Before wls I did several unhealthy things to lose weight. If I hadn't had wls I might still be trying things that I knew wouldn't work. If you are thinking about wls, please know that it can finally end the crazy train of fad diets and desperation if you use it as it was meant to be used.

Yes me....I don't want to be 150 my personal goal for me is actually between 180 to 200....I have 2 friends we were same size before our surgery... 1 of them 140 the other one 180 and looking at them I honestly know I wanna be 200.....

Hang in there buddy, we are ending one journey and starting a new one.

Welcome to the skinny side of life! I'm in my 5 week of being sleeved and I'm down 31lbs! LG! Life is good

I developed one on the inside of my right arm. Showed my dermo. She said it wasn't anything. Just an anomaly. Should I name it?

Just follow everything the doctor says and exercise I try to work out at least 5-6 days a week. It really sped up the process for me! Good luck! I'm so happy for you, you'll do great!

That's awesome! I am starting at a little less, but I hope to have as much success as you! Any advice for post surgery success? I'm scheduled for June 14