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Debbie: I'm so proud of you! No one knows what we endure in an abusive marriage. After 12 years of marriage, I too left my abusive husband and I know exactly what you mean when we say FREEDOM! Freedom to breathe, freedom to make your our choices, freedom to love yourself ( and that took a lot of time for me to do!) You hang in there, life has just begun for you! I remarried 3 months ago to the most wonderful man that God could have ever paired me with and I am happier than I have ever been in my entire life. I was just banded 2 1/2 weeks ago and this man is 100% supportive of this and I can wait to live a healthier life. I truly feel like I have just started living for the first time in my life!

Your journey is your journey , and hers is hers. You need to be firm with your wife and tell her u like yourself at this w,eight and that u will not go back to your old ways and put back weight on. Set boundaries with her ..you can make a choivce and don't let her comments bother you. Be firm and tell her you won't put up with her negative comments. This is an issue she needs to resolve for herself..don't try to figure why she is doing this.. Concentrate on keeping your health in check.

She's done pretty well, down 55 lbs since April 19. She could do better, but she doesn't follow all "the rules". She doesn't always do the protein shakes, eats things like ice cream, and drinks these frapuccino things that she gets from Costco, even drinks soda occasionally. I don't dare say anything. She would get defensive, and tell me that I need to start eating those things. There could be something to the completion thing, I'm 15 lbs lighter than she's ever known me to be. I mentioned that to her, that she's never known me this thin, and just has to get used to it. Her reply? That she would have never dated me if I was this thin. SMH.

I don't know what the issue is. She is usually very supportive. I don't know what to think anymore, my body image is so out of whack. What I see in the mirror is not what I see in photographs. But if she is jealous or feeling threatened, she should be doing the opposite, not what she's doing now.

You are so positive. I am only post op day 4 and cannot stop reading about complications. I think I am going to drive myself crazy. I know that only God knows what the future holds but I cannot wait to be past 10 days when my doc said I would be out of the woods.

Thank you so very much!! I appreciate it