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I agree with you, at the end of the day you have to stay at the weight you are most comfortable with. You have to decide what your ideal weight is right now. That's not to say it won't change in the future, up or down, all you can do is go with what feels right today. It's funny because my doctor was "satisfied" with my weight loss 25 pounds ago. He thought losing 200 pounds was "more than he could've hoped for". I, however, was nowhere near satisfied. I won't be satisfied until my BMI is well out of the obese range- so I set my goal weight a good 60 pounds less than the one he set for me. Once I get down to that point, I highly suspect I'll lower it even more. We'll see.

i couldnt agree more... my goal weight by the doctors charts (are something i dont think i can ever get to) and i am not saying that to sound b***h** but its true..for my height, it is what i weighed when i was in my mom's stomach when she was pregnant...i told my surgeon, the number i want to get to is me being healthy, mobile and something i can get to and stay with (and maintain happily)......i believe that the band/plication will help me with that part.... i recall sitting in his office and him asking what did i want to weigh at the time he said it, i was well over 300+ and i said i'd like to get to 299....and then 289 etc......and he laughed......and then i said eventually, i'd love to see 199.....and if i got there, i am okay with that....he said it is technically (obese still) but i said its something i can get too and right now that is all i care about..... i am not a hooked on number person i dont own a scale and use the clothes i have (or now have to buy all the time) as my guide....call me strange, but it works for me... so do i have a number in mind after all this rambling, well yeah but right now, i just want to see 199 make an appearance . GREAT post lellow GREAT comment missy

I did that Missy, I got to my goal weight where my BMI was 27 and I wasn't happy either.Got to a BMI of 25, and nope, still not happy. So I kept losing, looking for that elusive point where I was happy with what I saw. I realise now I was not ever going to be happy because I always saw my imperfections, and thought I could lose weight and they'd disappear. I now am more accepting of my imperfections and accept that they make me who I am, and that's beautiful too. I think losing and then gaining has actually turned out to be a godsend for me, because I can see myself more realistically now. Before the leak, I'd stay on or around a BMI of 23 only because my dr threatened to unfill me if I lost anymore. Now it's a more natural decision. I like what I see. That's never really happened for me before.

Nwww happy birthday, my friend. And you know what I think: that at 45, you are still one of the most beautiful women I know. And you have a rockingest bikini body! But I understand the insecurity about it, because I've been there. It's taking that first step, put on that bikini and step out onto that sand, and I promise you, no one is going to laugh at you. In fact, they're going to think you're beautiful, just as much as I do!

It is weird to me that the MD's ask or tell what the goal weight is when having the lap band... I understand why they do it since I am in healthcare, but that goal number is so overwhelming to me. My MD just said when you get to the weight that you can maintain and are comfortable then you have hit your goal! I am more comfortable with that thought process, although I still weigh myself once a week since it is the way that I judge if I need a fill along with the way I feel with my eating. You lose until you are comfortable with you which I believe is a struggle since we always tend to believe that we are "big" and see all our flaws. You got this girl!

I was actually thinking the same thing and I went on a hunt here on the website to find an answer. Ive lost weight as well not as much as you yet but im just starting out! but people have come to me and said wow you look like youve lost so much weight or wow you lost weight since last week when i saw you i cant believe it. and im just sitting here like uhhhhhhh i guess i dont know!! lol i do definitely notice it in my clothes i was a 14 and finally fit into a size 12. sometimes even you hit a point where you lose inches but not weight. sometimes its due to hormones because of your period or maybe lack of water intake. i know its happening but i heard that it takes some time for your brain to actually register the weight loss. in your brain youre still think oh im fat so even thin you might not feel it. just give it time and also keep looking at those pictures and listening to what people tell you to remind yourself! its happening girl we did the best thing ever for our selves!

You look great! Best of luck!

Wow, you look amazing.

Your going to do great thank you for sharing your story, this just makes a new newbie like me who has just schedule her first seminar hopeful as well as excited. We are all rooting for you and if you ever need to talk we are here.

My doctor used a 38 for me.