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jim, so very proud of you my friend. you will always be my inspiration.

Jim-super job!! Your numbers are amazing. Some day I hope to find the 'green zone' too.

I may be visiting this one tonight. Wow!

I WILL be making this! So easy and looks fantastic! Have you tried it yet?

I've been weighing EVERY single morning for almost three years. The only time I do NOT weigh is when we are out of town!!! My doctor recommends it! It keeps ME in control. For instance, yesterday I woke up three pounds heavier.....thank you Easter weekend!!! Protein upped to 95 yesterday, cake was out of the house......back to my normal life. I'd much rather know at three lbs and not weigh every ten or fourteen days and be up TEN!!!! That would be overwhelming, this three lbs is NOT. I know I'll go up and down, that is normal. I do not get upset, depressed - but it's part of my life, I go up and down 3 or 4 lbs every week.

Now that you've had a chance to vent (and boy, do I understand that need, sometimes!) it's time to get to reality. I agree that it sounds like your mom is passive-aggressively expressing her worry about you having this surgery, and that's understandable - hey, all surgeries have risks and those risks are the FIRST and LAST things that moms think about - including my mom, and I'm more than 50 years old If you do have the surgery on May 2nd, did I understand correctly that your mom won't be out of town until the 7th? If so, it's all golden, and she'll have the chance to see that you're okay, AND you will have your ride home. By the way, that is pretty normal procedure - you'll be a matter of a day or so since having anesthesia, and you'll probably have had at least some pain meds. You won't be at your best cognitively because of it, and your ability to respond to things quickly will be reduced so they want to make sure you get home safely. However, you will likely be just fine on your own most of the time. As others have already said, you'll be doing very little but sipping and walking around the place for a few days. I get that your mom is making the schedule tough, but you have to remember that ultimately you're expecting a favor from her - family or not, she ALSO has a life and isn't at your beck and call, any more than your schedule should revolve around her. If you want her help, then it's right to accommodate where you can. If the schedule HAS to change because of insurance, move it out one additional week - I know you don't want to wait - heck, I'm not happy about waiting until late July, but the alternative is not good for my husband or me, so I'm sucking it up (and I've been planning this since last summer, too!). It's a compromise you can make that isn't a HUGE thing when you think about it logically. The alternative is talk to the hospital and arrange for late discharge, tell them you can't have an escort home until after 5 PM or whatever and ask what they can do. The likelihood is that there is something they can do if it's a question of a few hours. Then get a friend to come and get you after work. Hang in there, it will all work out. Just take a deep breath and don't panic. There ARE options, you just have to think it through. Best of luck!

So what I read in all of this is that your mom is scared something is going to happen to you. She might not say it out loud (but did) and making up reasons not to have surgery or postpone it is her way of trying to tell you she is scared (maybe)?My mom is very passive agressive and did a little of this. "How are you going to be able to live forever on such a little bit of food?" "I don't think it is healthy to eat so little and what about your congnative function on so few calories?" All her way of being scared without saying it outloud. My mom came around and stayed with me the whole time in the hospital and was at my house everyday for a few days to help. I think you mom will make it happen because in the end it is what is best for you and that is what parents want.

it wont fail! As long as you consume the propoer nutrition and exercise if possible. The stalls are expected.. I suggest you weigh no more than once a week.. Our bodies fluctuate with water weight too often and will drive you insane. I have weighed once a week on the same day since surgery and have always experienced a loss even if it is 1 lb.. The ont time i weighed in the middle of week it showed a 1.5 weight gain. I jumped off the scale so quick it was like I was standing on fire LOL.. but when I weighed again on my normal day, it was 1 lb loss.. whew..

Up your protein intake......good luck

I went through the same thing. Who knows why....and I agree it's very frustrating. But I figure our bodies are doing a lot of adjusting and stabilizing right now so anything can be expected. Hang in there, it gets back on track. I just went to Europe for 2 weeks, didn't have a single croissant or piece of chocolate, or a plate of pasta (SO wrong in Italy) - totally stuck to plan, walked miles and miles each day, and came home 2 lbs heavier. Go figure. But I'm sticking with it, I know it will readjust. Good luck to you.