At 21 you are a lot stronger than most! I would have been crushed and that event would have fueled my depression and eating, but not you!! Girl, you sound like you're going to do just fine with this process. I know most of us have all been wounded by hurtful words, but like Dee said, you will be that much more experienced and thoughtful when it's your time to lend support. Heck, you're in the postion to lend support now... just talking about your evening certainly sparked my fire! We should consider ourselves very lucky -our surgery will help us become our better selves, but being an ugly, ignorant, and cruel person on the inside is inoperable!