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I never thought I would find that question so offensive. I am guilty of asking such a question when I was younger to my own Sister. I do believe people have no malicious intent when they ask such a question but yet it can come off so offensive. My Wife and I have tried for three years to get pregnant with no luck. We both went through extensive testing and seen numerous specialists. It was determined I was the problem. I was not producing viable sperm. I under went Surgery last February to determine if I had a blockage and to see if they could extract viable samples to be used in conjunction with IVF. They got a little and we had it frozen until such a time we could move forward with the IVF. We were warned by both my Doctor and My Wife's that we should be prepared for back up options such as a donor as they had little to work with. My wife and I decided donor was not something we wanted. If we could not have them biologically then maybe we would consider possible adoption down the road. My surgery was in February of 2012 and the IVF cycle was in May. Even though we were told the odds were not favorable but yet possible we had very high hopes and less than 24 hours later after the IVF cycle our world came crashing to a halt as we were notified it didn't work. We both cried for two days and I personally took it harder than I expected I ever would. I guess part of it is because even though I did nothing wrong I felt like I failed us both. Now 8 months later we talk about it less but the memories are fresh. I still blame myself and haven't really moved on. This past weekend we were visiting my Wife's cousin who has 16 month old twins who we simply adore and love to spend time with. My Wife posted the below picture on facebook which lead to a lot of "When are you going to have babies of your own?" Naturally, it is our own fault for posting the picture but I cannot help but be annoyed. One of the people who asked is an Aunt who does not have kids herself due to medical complications. One would think she would've been more tactful. Next time you consider asking someone when they are going to have kids take a moment to consider that there maybe more to the story and that it could be a sensitive subject!! I guess this is my payback for asking my Sister and Brother in law many years ago. I am however a proud Uncle of a 22 and 15 year old!

Jim, I've never been in your shoes but my heart positively breaks for you. To the inconsiderate people that would ask personal information such as "when are you going to have kids?" I'd say "I don't know, when are you going to learn not be an inappropriate, nosy idiot?" ((HUGS))

So happy classes are all done. But I came home and was really tired. There is a chocolate fudge cake on the counter and yep I did it. Started just a sliver off the cut part but it was sooo good had to have another. Feel kinda guilty but surgery is 7 days away just had to have it. I've been so good on the liver diet, I just caved. All I can say

You look fantastic--love that dress too! Congratulations!

Hi, Call the restaurant tomorrow and ask for help. Meatballs is a good choice. They were one of my first real meals. A nice tender filet goes down easy. As for the Cheesecake Factory, you're on your own. I don't eat cheesecake. My thing there was coffee ice cream and Godiva hot fudge. Haven't been since the band. I love their darker bread. That I could the whole loaf. Bread made me fat. But really call the restaurant. They are there to help customers because without us they would not be open. Good luck and happy eating.

Hi If you look at my blog earlier,I lost around 7 pounds at most every month.Then I said whatever and decided to eat what I enjoy.Started buying chicken breast,veal and beef stirfry meat.I lightly floured it and shallow fried it in a wok with olive oil.With this I also fried some onion and capsicum,lots, and found myself eating this ALL THE TIME.LOTS of it.At least 250g per day.Some days more.I also went back to full fat milk and use loads in my 5 cups of tea per day.Another thing I did was add 2 dolchi letche (spelling incorrect) cappuchinos per day.Full fat.I upped my vitamins and voila,dropped a load of weight with breaded fried proteins.Worked for me!But I wasnt aiming to lose much at all before the holiday as I made my new years goal in November so I didnt feel pressured to lose.Maybe thats why I did.Bought all my clothes in November (for the holiday) and they were to big even before we left..lol Started asking myself why this happened which lead me to do some research into fat.My carbs were easily 20 from the milk and another 30 from the flour.My fats were up to who knows what.I now follow a full fat,50 carb,lots of protein plan and even now,after the holiday,I am dropping steadily.My whole family is back on full fats and the food is tastier than ever before.I have come to the conclusion that we need fat.Healthy fat.Sugar is my enemy,not fat and not complex carbs. One other thing.We also ate a lot of spicy food then.Have a student from India staying with us now and she's teaching me to cook Indian.They use loads of fat as well.I think the spicy food made me eat less as well.Who knows. It still scares and amazes me to eat like this.I expect to gain every day when I weigh but I am actually losing about .3 per day now.I deliberately slow this down as I am only 3 pounds from goal and dont know what I will do once Im at goal.So Im stretching this out a bit..hehehe! Maybe just try something different.Food,the right kind though,that you never eat.Spicy food.Caffine.More fish,more meat. Dont rush yourself.I causes stress that makes us want to eat.You have come so far already an people dont really see how much we have lost,just that we have lost.It was pressure to lose the first 96, now enjoy losing the last 20.I cN even laugh at the scale when I get on it 22:00 in the evening and it is 3 pounds heavier than in the morning.Previously it freaked me out. Good luck for the last 20.

Congrats on your weightloss and be encouraged! You did this for you, so forget the co-workers.

You're doing awesome, Jim. I love that John Maxwell quote. I think attitude is half the battle.

you were one of the first people who friended me and calmly answered my zillion questions. for that i am forever grateful. YOU Jim, are not only my hero but an inspiration for me to carry on and hang in there, no matter what. you are exceptional you are special you are my friend.