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I never thought I would find that question so offensive. I am guilty of asking such a question when I was younger to my own Sister. I do believe people have no malicious intent when they ask such a question but yet it can come off so offensive. My Wife and I have tried for three years to get pregnant with no luck. We both went through extensive testing and seen numerous specialists. It was determined I was the problem. I was not producing viable sperm. I under went Surgery last February to determine if I had a blockage and to see if they could extract viable samples to be used in conjunction with IVF. They got a little and we had it frozen until such a time we could move forward with the IVF. We were warned by both my Doctor and My Wife's that we should be prepared for back up options such as a donor as they had little to work with. My wife and I decided donor was not something we wanted. If we could not have them biologically then maybe we would consider possible adoption down the road. My surgery was in February of 2012 and the IVF cycle was in May. Even though we were told the odds were not favorable but yet possible we had very high hopes and less than 24 hours later after the IVF cycle our world came crashing to a halt as we were notified it didn't work. We both cried for two days and I personally took it harder than I expected I ever would. I guess part of it is because even though I did nothing wrong I felt like I failed us both. Now 8 months later we talk about it less but the memories are fresh. I still blame myself and haven't really moved on. This past weekend we were visiting my Wife's cousin who has 16 month old twins who we simply adore and love to spend time with. My Wife posted the below picture on facebook which lead to a lot of "When are you going to have babies of your own?" Naturally, it is our own fault for posting the picture but I cannot help but be annoyed. One of the people who asked is an Aunt who does not have kids herself due to medical complications. One would think she would've been more tactful. Next time you consider asking someone when they are going to have kids take a moment to consider that there maybe more to the story and that it could be a sensitive subject!! I guess this is my payback for asking my Sister and Brother in law many years ago. I am however a proud Uncle of a 22 and 15 year old!

And Im down 128.2 pounds.Weighed in at 168.8 pounds today.Only 4 pounds from my dr's goal.Not too bad if I might say so myself...lol Am still all over the place with the eating at the moment trying to find my "normal" again but plodding along which still seems to work for me. I will start exercising.Ok,I dont even believe myself anymore.But I should,I know.Still playing squash twice a week though. Have revised my goal for myself to 154 pounds.70kg's or maybe 69.8 will be even better...lol.I might take my time getting there though or then I might just decide to seriously low carb for 4 weeks and drop all of it in a month (lost 14.6 pounds from mid November to mid December and 6 from Mid Dec till now) I can be done but is it important to do it so fast at this point?I am going to wait with PS till sometime later this year so there is no rush now. Things I need to work on. 1. Exercise 2.water.I dont drink water.I drink tea with milk.Lots and lots of it.I need to drink water. 3.vitamins.I need to have my labs done and take my multi every day with the extra vit A and C Ok,thats it for now.

Little behind updating but i made it to my one month post op check up last week and i wanted a bigger number but I've lost 33lbs which after i stopped and thought about how many people lose 33 lbs in 1 months! so now i'm proud of my loss. My left thigh is still numb and slightly painful but he said in 6 months that should get better. This month i'm going to focus on my walking and i will pull a big number at my next check up in march! I'm great full for my supportive people i have. I return to work Monday after being gone 6 weeks so i'm dragging my feet there. I'm going to go in with a positive attitude and see how they react. most were jealous that i was getting time off for a surgery they found unnecessary. So i may just be walking back in to the lions den or i may not but what ever it is i will have my head held high! I'm 33lbs slimmer

You hear and see a lot on this site " just because you can eat more doesn't mean you should". Frankly this is the case if you have the band or not. We all got here because we could and did and we "just this onced" more than once. Most of us have doctors who gave us very specific orders as to how much we are to eat at a time. My doctor said a cup. Have I ever eaten more than that at a meal- yes, alot more- no, should I have - no. I got use to eating a lot at one sitting pre-band. I was never much of a snacker / crap eater, but I was a big eater at meal time. I could eat with the big boys, which was why I became a big girl. In my obese mind food was good and more was better. Now that I have the band food still taste good, really good, but I know that I MUST stop at a cup. Why must I stop, 1- My band has made my stomach about the size of a golf ball (that ain't big) 2- I DO NOT want to stretch it or damage my band 3- I really do want to loose weight. So while I could likely eat a lot even now post-banded I do not "want" to. (There is that word again- WANT) There are times, especially at family events, that I find myself helping my plate like I use to eat and I have to go whoa- not gonna happen. It's hard to lose the mantality of being a big eater at times. There are some banders on here who say there band reminds them or prevents them from eating "bad" foods or to much. Well, my band doesn't. What does my band do? It helps me eat slower and stay satisfied longer with less. I do get stuck on occassion, but that is normally because I tried to eat to fast or didn't chew well enough. My job as the band user is to listen to my body and if I am not hungry DON'T EAT. When I do eat, eat things that are good for me (protein, veggies, fruits) and keep my portion sizes down. I do not need to eat a gallons worth of food, my body only needs a cup. It isn't always easy to do our part, the band is there willing and able to help, but we (I) must do my part. Each time I eat when I'm not hungry, eat more than I should, or eat "crap" foods I imagine my band sitting there hanging in shame. The band will not, can not help me if I choose to go against it. So next time I think well just a little more or just this once I will remind myself that those thoughts is what got me to the place where I needed the band.

Hi If you look at my blog earlier,I lost around 7 pounds at most every month.Then I said whatever and decided to eat what I enjoy.Started buying chicken breast,veal and beef stirfry meat.I lightly floured it and shallow fried it in a wok with olive oil.With this I also fried some onion and capsicum,lots, and found myself eating this ALL THE TIME.LOTS of it.At least 250g per day.Some days more.I also went back to full fat milk and use loads in my 5 cups of tea per day.Another thing I did was add 2 dolchi letche (spelling incorrect) cappuchinos per day.Full fat.I upped my vitamins and voila,dropped a load of weight with breaded fried proteins.Worked for me!But I wasnt aiming to lose much at all before the holiday as I made my new years goal in November so I didnt feel pressured to lose.Maybe thats why I did.Bought all my clothes in November (for the holiday) and they were to big even before we left..lol Started asking myself why this happened which lead me to do some research into fat.My carbs were easily 20 from the milk and another 30 from the flour.My fats were up to who knows what.I now follow a full fat,50 carb,lots of protein plan and even now,after the holiday,I am dropping steadily.My whole family is back on full fats and the food is tastier than ever before.I have come to the conclusion that we need fat.Healthy fat.Sugar is my enemy,not fat and not complex carbs. One other thing.We also ate a lot of spicy food then.Have a student from India staying with us now and she's teaching me to cook Indian.They use loads of fat as well.I think the spicy food made me eat less as well.Who knows. It still scares and amazes me to eat like this.I expect to gain every day when I weigh but I am actually losing about .3 per day now.I deliberately slow this down as I am only 3 pounds from goal and dont know what I will do once Im at goal.So Im stretching this out a bit..hehehe! Maybe just try something different.Food,the right kind though,that you never eat.Spicy food.Caffine.More fish,more meat. Dont rush yourself.I causes stress that makes us want to eat.You have come so far already an people dont really see how much we have lost,just that we have lost.It was pressure to lose the first 96, now enjoy losing the last 20.I cN even laugh at the scale when I get on it 22:00 in the evening and it is 3 pounds heavier than in the morning.Previously it freaked me out. Good luck for the last 20.

My dr didn't tell me how many carbs I can have a day but its not like I'm eating one a day, it's a treat to enjoy once and awhile

The only exersize I do is walking... I got a fitbit and that really helps to motivate.and its really doing the job for me.... Good Luck with any moving !!!

Hi all. Well I had my surgery two days ago. I came home last night. I feel so much better today than I did on the day of surgery. I hope it continues to improve at this rate. Right now I am still on clear liquids. Monday I can start full liquids. It seems like I have taken very little in but yet I am not dehydrated. Two ounces of jello and a sugar free popsicle. Also water and some juice. I want to be so careful not to develop a leak. Right now sometimes I get a gurgly feeling when I drink. Do we always have this or is that something that subsides with time?