Ms. Goldy-- you are not a failure, only have not had the right tools to help you be healthy! "Diets" do not work because they are not a permanent thing. The surgery is permanent. You CAN blow it, but you can not go back to the place you were without hurting yourself. You should have the help of a crack nutritionist to guide you along the way and if you stay active on the boards, you have support. In your local area there should be support groups too. And we all LEARN to find our own health. You are not a failure, dear. Just have not found the right tools for you yet. See the positive.