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I have also chosen to only tell a few immediate family members. This is such a personal decision, and since there is no right or wrong way to handle it, my advice would be to do whatever you feel most comfortable doing, and if that means keeping the band to yourself, then do it, and do NOT feel guilty! Reality is, we do most of the work anyway! The band is a wonderful tool, absolutely, but this lifestyle takes discipline, commitment and hard work in order for it to be successful. Focus on what you are doing (making healthy choices, limiting portion sizes and exercising) and proudly explain just that when someone asks your "secret". I also have a similar situation with a relative who puts a negative spin on everything and can be very condescending (I would imagine most families have at least one person like that!), so I don't blame you one bit for choosing not to share this personal information with her! We can't change the mindset or behaviors of other people, but we do have the choice to protect ourselves from being subjected to their negativity. Good luck!

i wrote you a message and it did not send...bummer. Try to have your shake nearby...even a little that you can sip. I just put some cinnamon in a vanilla one, and it transformed it! I hope I'm allowed to do that...I think I'm not, come to think of it. If you are far enough out, you can try that...it tastes like rice pudding, kind of. I made my children lots of frozen meals....like a gallon of cooked meatballs that could be gotten out and put into sauce in the crock pot, and precooked noodles that could be heated up...and wala. No cooking for me. They do the clean up, too. I wonder if something like that would help you.

hi there i think you are doing great your NUT did put pressure on you, telling you could lose 58 lbs by the end of the year, go at your own pace, and don't feel pressured - do how you are doing - which is terrific i can eat bread, i also love sandwiches, - had one slice once - just didn't feel it was worth it - so i don't have bread anymore you've been around the block enough to know we all have our stalls - we gotta ride them out its hard to see a before and after picture - and really see a difference with yourself - but trust me i see the difference and you look great in my case - i just watched as the numbers on the scale were going down - i never took my measurements, boo hoo - one day i looked in the full mirror after my shower - i stared and said "wheres my stomach?" as far as being able to eat anything - as long as your doing your protein, measuring your calories and carbs - you know when to stop eating - you can't ask for me your pictures are great take care

Very personal decision but I decided to be totally and completely honest. Now I did not sing it from the roof tops, but I told all my close friends and family I was having surgery. I was afraid of the negativity or maybe I should say the people who would think I took the easy way out. Wrong, this is harder than any diet I have been on. My advice is tell people when you are comfortable, you will need the support and when eating with others it will stop you from having to always explain why you do not eat certain foods.What ever you decide to do, just remain focused and honest with your self.

Spatters3,what you are going through surely puts things back in perspective for me!And you are right. I have always been severly ADHD with hyper focus and unfortunately age didnt change that.But there are things I can do to conciously take my focus of this whole weight loss process. And I will count my blessings one by one every day to help me move on. I will also be praying for you that the Lord will keep you and protect you in this difficult and trying time.Please let us know how you are doing.xxo

Letting it out when you're frustrated is good for you. You picked the right place to voice what you're feeling. I am sure everyone (or most) have felt the same at some point. Reading about everyone's ups and downs helps me prepare for what may be to come, the good, the bad and the ugly. You'll get there! Stay positive! Good luck!

You have to get distracted by something more important than your weightloss. Right now I am in the midst of battling uterine cancer (surgery, chemo, radiation, etc.) and my weightloss is really REALLY secondary :-) So... I pray that you don't succumb to any illness but read what you wrote yourself - when you were on vacation weightloss was pretty far from a concern and by golly, you lost weight ! Live your life, enjoy your new lighter self, and be totally confident that you WILL lose weight because you WILL !

My sugery is 6 days away now and I am on a liquid protien and water diet only. I am about to lose my mind. My plan was to just stay in the house and watch T.V. because I dont want to see anyone eating. Worse idea ever the commercials totally blindsided me. Didn't expect to see so many food commercials in my life and Popeyes is the worst. Thier adds are everwhere on every station. LOL I'm determined to make it through and you will to. Best of luck to you.

Hi Thanks.Im going to search for this book.I need something to do this "without fear".My kids find this very funny ( 20 year old second year uni and 11 year old)

I totally agree with everything you said!! Perfectionism is what messes up so many of us. Sometimes it is hard to see it as being perfectionistic when you didn't even start to begin with. I would often say "How can I be a perfectionist when I have not done one thing?" But so many things I will not even start b/c I know I won't accomplish it perfectly. Now I'm giving myself permission to "plod along" as you say. The scale tells me something I don't want to hear then I don't give up. I plod along. And you know what...it works?? It doesn't have to be perfect. Sometimes life is not a straight shot. It's a roller coaster. I think you have stumbled on something here!! Great post!