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What a freeing experience. I am so glad you are able to realize the beauty of it all. It is hard to let go of relationships at times for whatever reason are not meant for us. Although, difficult at the time when you look back you will realize it made you stronger and better. Something is always waiting on the otherside of it.

Oh, hun. All I can say is that we are right there with you. I'm a true believer that if it's meant to be, it will be. I'm a little farther on the spectrum and have had friends point out the obvious- I dated and had relationships with emotional vampires, guys who took advantage of my insecruities with weight and didn't treat me right because of it... I held on to hope that if only I did this better or that better it would work out, because I just didn't want to feel alone. I'm only a few weeks post op, but I can already tell a huge behavior change in myself. I haven't dated in months, and I don't plan too until I"m a at least 50 lbs lighter, to give myself the time and peace to put it all back together, mentally, physically, and emotionally. I have made promises to myself to demand better, and if I don't find the right guy- it's going to be okay. I can wait. I'm no longer clingy or focused or trying to force things. By making my health and weight my number one priority my attitude on so many things has changed- and I too feel peace. You clearly have a kind heart and good soul, and you will find Mr. Right- just wait, it will come... god bless.

Good luck to you too!! I'm here I'm my room

Amen!! You're doing the right thing. Going into this journey you will really need to be free from any distractions, especially ones that might have been seen as co-dependent. Obesity and over eating is an addiction, and until we all realize this for ourselves we will always fall back into bad habits. You're already starting out on the right foot. You're going to do wonders with your Sleeve!

Good for You. You are NOT alone. I am not alone. We are family - VST family and we do (I found out the first day I joined) care about each other. That's a great feeling. So to paraphase what you said.... LET GO & LET GOD. He's got this, get out of his way. Lord it took me too many times of standing in front of him to realize I should move to side.

*hugs* not easy but I do think the timing is beautiful. The season with him in it came and went. This journey is a deeply personal one in which your faith is going to bring you through. A new season will come bringing the right person with it Right now this is your time. Get to know you, on your own, and keep building that mindset. Mokee is right- You do have us, and you'll be pleasantly about how rich an experience something like this can turn out to be - hurtful start and all. Also- here's a favorite video of mine on the beauty of being alone vs lonely.

You still have us here. We care.

That's AWESOME!!! This may sound dorky, but I don't want you to have to beat the crap out of anyone.... make up a list of about 10 or 20 stock questions and when you don't know what to say, you ask questions. People LOVE to talk about themselves. You ask one question and you'll be nodding and shaking your head and saying "uh huh" for like....half an hour.... And they'll think you're like...the greatest guy they ever met! (OH-- and I finally lost a pound BELOW my bounced up weight. Yay!! I really need to kick my own butt. Turns out I was all swollen up from Aunt Flo visiting!! I've been in menopause for a couple years, so this was a shocker!)

Feeling great now I can absolutely identify with the folks who are having a rough go of it post-op. My weight was 318 when I started - and this morning I was 219, one more lb. and I am in the century club - then another 18 down and I will be under 200 for the first time in a looooong time. My husband was the same starting weight (we really are twins lol.) and this morning he was 207 - and is now just overweight, no longer obese. We had no idea that these great changes would happen so rapidly.

Congrats to getting back to something you love.