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I can sympathize... I haven't even told my bf about my surgery plans and I am 48 days out!! "luckily" we aren't married, but I know he would say I am beng ridiculous and do not need it. My psych thought it was very strange, but as I told her... We are a little uneven and at times I definitely can't see us lasting long term. Bottom line - this surgery is for ME. I am an emotional eater b/c I put everyone else first. I am going to be selfish with this. My health - heck, my LIFE - is worth more than his issues with it. I am sorry you are going thru this, but thank goodness you are cognizant of what's going on. It's an unfortunate extra hurdle for you. And I hope and pray I lose two pounds a week consistently!! Please always feel free to reach out to me and we will push through together!

Good for you! Follow your passion. Girl, I'm right there with you. I've been thinking about going back to school for a nutrition/dietician. I actually have a career counseling appointment in two weeks. I'm completely on the plant-based diet path and would love to guide/share and coach people along that same path to optimal health. I've also gone to culinary school, but also interested in getting raw chef certification. I wish you the best...go for it!!!

I'm with you. I tried to look up online nutrional certification or degrees, and really had no luck. I'm not having much luck finding a school period. I know its out there somewhere! Good luck with whatever you decide to do! I think that both of the things you mentioned sound like awesome ideas. And following our passons only adds to our new happy healthy lives!

I think you should do it! I know for me, it's really hard to pack my lunches for work and plan every day ahead of time.... You would have a client in me!

It's that kind of attitude that makes women leave men when they loose weight. The whole thinking back over your journey after you loose weight and realizing how unsupportive your partner is can really change how you feel about yourself and your relationship. Men will be men they mostly like us barefoot and cooking for them in the kitchen. Unfortunately not even the ones closest to us have to be in our support team. I choose to kind of keep my other half out of it because I want to do this for me and not him (even though he'll eventually benifit from it I'm sure). Just tell him that you hope by the time you loose your weight you hope he won't have E.D. hehehe...seriously though take what you need from him to heart and let everything else come with a grain of salt. He'll either come around or he won't but you may feel more empowered at the end of the day knowing you didn't need his support to be healthy.

Kgirl (I'm a Kgirl too, only I now live in Australia ) and I know those pops and bangs you mean. They are super embarrassing.....because everyone knows what they are, and who made them. Especially if you're me and your the only fat girl in your wing. Actually........I'm probably the fattest person in the building. There are 500 of us. And I have an intense fear of steps on campers and motor homes. To the point that I refuse to climb them. Period. Which means I only see what I can see from peaking in the door. Being fat has pretty ruined my life, but like you I'm changing that. Good luck!

Im sorry for you ....Maybe you can find a support group Im sure that would help you...and were all here for you when you need us....hugs

Rahrah.... you just described over half the situation on this LB site. My husband was one of the ones that sabotaged my diet efforts in the past and still does to this day. He is 6'4" and has no weight problem. Will eat and i'm not kidding a half gallon in one sitting and not gain anything. Yesterday he polished off half bag of oatmeal cookies and 1/4 bag of Oreos.... then was still hungry and ate a plate of Pad-ti noodles. They want you to be thin, but are afraid of you finding some one else. He makes commits all the time about me wanting to find other men. I tell him, if i wanted another man i could have one and could have had one at 223lbs. A lot of relationships don't survive WLS. The "other" person usually can't handle the attention that they are getting now that the weight has come off. my average was 2lb a month..... but i don't care. i now weight 145 and i'm happy and i feel great.... And so will you....

I'm so sorry for you that don't have support at home,that sucks! I don't have a lot of support at home but i haven't had surgery yet so we'll see. But i can hear my husband saying things like "aren't you suppose to lose weight faster than this?" "or you could've done this without surgery if you just tried harder" Then i tell him to fall off the face of the earth if you don't shut the _ _ _ _ up! for real, i don't tolerate talk like that. I hope you husbands, boyfriends all come around. People are mean to us bandsters sometimes,and not just at home...

I like how you explained it as your relationship to food. I find myself feeling loss of a relationship and sadness and I haven't had surgery yet! I keep thinking about events where food was the center and how I will no longer enjoy those events. I'm trying to give myself talks about the things I will be able to do instead. It's definately tough. Thank you for such an honest and personal share.