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I suggest you try not to harbor the anger and sit down and have an open and honest discussion about how you need his support and the things he is doing to sabbotage it. Perhaps some reassurance that you love him, etc. and your love will grow stronger by him being supportive and encouraging. If you aren't able to have that conversation, perhaps some couples' counseling? Not to sound extreme but you deserve that. When I was married, my husband did similar things. He would want me to lose weight but sabbotage my efforts by foods he would buy or prepare, etc. If he was serving my plate, he would pile it high. It eventually became evident to me that, yah, he would love to have a "thin" me but was very insecure in himself and felt I would become more attractive to others. It was actually very subtle and controlling behavior in my situation. When I went for my pre-op appts, this also came up with the pyschologist. He said some men will get jealous as the woman loses weight (or vice versa) and as the other gets more attention, feels better about themself, etc. It sounds like your husband's comments, food purchases, etc. now are a subtle way of him trying to sabbotage this new lifestyle again. I hope you are able to stay strong, stay focused and not let his insecurities get the best of you. This isn't just for appearance, it is your health at stake. I hope you have a strong support system around you if he cannot be that for you, such as close family, friends, local support group, etc. Sorry you are going through this and perhaps you continuing to persevere and avoid those "muffins and icecream" too will help you feel good inside about what a strong person you have become! You deserve this - and yes, 2 lbs. a week is a great goal! Best of luck to you.

I read once that "Success Happens Because You Make It Happen" and you have made it happen! I am having my procedure in one week...so I hope to be half as successful as you. I am starting at 407... Thanks for the inspiration! Any tips for the temptations?

way to go!!

Awesome job! Keep up the good work!!

Thanks! I appreciate the encouraging words

You've come along way in a short time, that is really awesome!!! You should be VERY proud of yourself...The band helps, but YOU'VE made the changes that have made this success story to be...

I can sympathize... I haven't even told my bf about my surgery plans and I am 48 days out!! "luckily" we aren't married, but I know he would say I am beng ridiculous and do not need it. My psych thought it was very strange, but as I told her... We are a little uneven and at times I definitely can't see us lasting long term. Bottom line - this surgery is for ME. I am an emotional eater b/c I put everyone else first. I am going to be selfish with this. My health - heck, my LIFE - is worth more than his issues with it. I am sorry you are going thru this, but thank goodness you are cognizant of what's going on. It's an unfortunate extra hurdle for you. And I hope and pray I lose two pounds a week consistently!! Please always feel free to reach out to me and we will push through together!

Have you told your husband firmly to stop buying the crap for you? Sometimes this change can be rough for our partners- they somehow get it in their minds that when we lose the weight, we will suddenly become new people who will move on to bigger and better fish.

thats super awesome!!!!!! Congrates!!!!

I HAVE TO CALL TODAY FOR THE EXACT SAME THING. One guy told me to call today to find out if the medical director approved it. i already called twice this morning but i dont think they open until 9. ahhhhhhh!!! Ive come a long way and im so proudd of myself for being so persistant. God is on myside. Ive complleted 6mnths nutrition, psych elav, surgery consult and not to mention all the damn calls ive had to make to make sure that everyone involved in my process has done their jobs and called, received faxes, sent faxes, entered information etc. My mom says that all this work should go on my resume. lol.