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"Failure" is not in falling down, or making mistakes, or in actions we regret, but in giving up. You haven't done that, Shelli D. If you put the whole thing in a different perspective, you're doing better than average. Or use another habit (other than food) as an example of what you're trying to accomplish. If you want to stop chewing your fingernails, you can count on at least six weeks of mindfulness, and in that six weeks, you will chew your nails. Possibly right off. But they grow back, and you learn to keep your hands busy and your fingers out of your mouth. lol Don't confuse set backs with failure. You're right that we can't just give up food, but the mindfulness we need is the new habit we want to cultivate. And next time those "f'd up already, might as well do x, y, or z" thoughts happen, you'll have that mindfulness a little quicker, and that little longer willpower. Maybe enough even to get yourself to somewhere or someone who can distract you from the action of the old habits. You can do it. In fact, you already are. Go, you! CE

Very best of luck to you. I have my surgery on Monday and am excited and nervous. It is so helpful to read this entry and hear about progress of someone just a few weeks down the road. Keep up the good work.

I did ok on the pre op but mine was basically the Atkins diet not liquid. It was when I came home after surgery and couldn't eat anything but liquids for the first 2 weeks, my head was playing some games on me!! I cried and had a little pity party but now I'm 3 weeks out and halfway to normal foods again =) YAY! It's not that you can't have anything but liquids but that I can't eat but a few "licks" or sips of whatever and I'm done. I look at the rest of the food and get so aggravated I can't finish it or at least get a few more bites in. I know I need the protein and nutrition but it takes me all day to get down the protein and vitamins!! lol Such a weird head game, wanting and needing food but simply not being able to get it in. Good luck with the pre op and your sleeve journey, it's harder than I anticipated but I am down 32 lbs since I started pre op till now so it is all worth it!!! Almost to Onederland!!!

One thing I highly recommend...after surgery when you have to cough, if you have to cough, hold a pillow to and into your tummy. It helps tremendously! A heating pad was soooo very wonderful for me. The one thing I recommend...a POSITIVE attitude! Makes a world of difference. Some people don't have pain, but...most do and just expect it. Check out my blog if you want to read about my experiences. YEAH! Very happy for you. Your life is going to change...make it a positive, healthy life change. It is up to you. Congratulations and I can't wait to read your future posts. One Love.

Hi will be sleeved in 3 days also. I started my pre op diet on July 1st. I only have to drink 4 shakes a day and then my water and clear liquids like broth, jello, and popsicles. So far I have done good except when I got bad news on Tuesday, I back on track now and the weight is still coming off. We will be packing before we no it! Good luck to everyone! Hsve a wonderful weekend.

And gas ex...me too...Monday!!

3 days!? Me too!! I have heard heating pad & lip balm are two biggies! Good luck and congrats!!!

What is it with our Mothers? Mine is that way also. I am 60 yrs old and my mother has tormented me all my life. I decided to get the lap band so I could lose weight and she could't tell me how fat I was. First I started by trying to love myself. ( They say if you love yourself, you can do anything.) Then I started to take care of myself, like it has taken me 60 years to realize that my mother only cared about herself. Don't get me wrong, she loves me, but she dosen't like me. So I have to like myself. They also say that females who are obese usually do not have a good relationship with their mothers. Do things that make you feel good. Fix your hair and wear makeup, always put lotion on your whole body to make your skin soft. Rub your feet with lotion. Paint your finger nails and toe nails. Dress up, put on perfume Go walking every day, (that always makes me feel good). Plant some pretty flowers. Anything you like to do, do it , and tell yourself that you are beautiful and you deserve it. I hope this helps. Hang in there. Good Luck Lauracat.

laura, my mom has called me that and worse........i understand what you are going through. food will pacify you but eating junk food will only comfort you for that moment. then you will fill bad. please dont do that. i am sorry there are people in this world who are so hateful and cruel. since she cant say i am sorry, let me say that i am sorry. your gorgeous inside and out. now, then, forever. rise above ignorant people.

Don't do it. Move away from the cake. It is not your friend! That being said.....That is one of the worst things you could say to a person. You should've told her, you would rather be overweight than have a black heart. Telling you to ignore her would be impossible but, don't let it rule you or your decisions. I am so sorry, you have to deal with someone like that.