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I had my surgery 7 weeks ago and was not doing well the first few weeks as most of us. I was full of regret, depressed and so negative. I think that was normal at 2 and 3 weeks out. I stalled at 3 weeks to top that up. At the beginning I was so happy, I met few people who had the surgery hoping they will support me and understand what I have been going through and not being judgemental but instead one of them was critical to my situation. I was so tearful and shocked when I heard that. At 2 weeks post op what did she expect? why she forgot how it was for her post op? I lost confidence in people around me. I thought friends are there to listen and feel each other’s pain. Any way, getting better these days. Training for 1 to 2 hours a day. Losing slowly but started weighing myself once a week only, ease the stress. Happy that I am eating healthy smaller portions. I want to stay the same person always and not to forget where I have come from. I want to always support newbies without being judgemental. Peace.

Just a quick blog.....I went to see my Dr. today and I'm down 28.5 pounds since my very first visit (January 5th). I can't believe it....I've been banded since 2/21 and I had my second fill today which was half a cc (my first fill was last month and was 2cc). I'm so happy!!!!! I wish I had done this years ago!

My office staff knows Im having surgery... 1. because we are extremely tight knit, I babysit people's children for whole weekends, they were at my wedding, etc. 2. because we are all overweight, and we complain and do WW and fail. There are some here who need to feel it is ok to go have SURGERY--it is necessary for some, I AM ONE and just opening up and saying Im going to the seminar, has had everyone doing their research. They can all make their own decision. We are all women here and we struggle together. Im SURE that if insurance covered tummy tucks a few people here would have it done in a blink of an eye! To EACH her OWN and 2 people are going to seminars to learn about it!and Im all about being informed! I was motivated to do it by someone who i used to work with who had it done. My work family is not a concern...actually its my husbands family who is! haha! They are all about body images and weight loss (yet most should be asking to workout with me instead of commenting) I already told my husband...U ZIP IT MISTER...no one is to know on your side! and my family doesnt know outside of my parents and sisters. I just dont want the crap answers of oh you can lose that if you eat right and exercise...but are the same people who say "Why dont you want to eat" when they are trying to serve me a man size plate of plantains and fried chicken. Same people who go to Dominican Republic for a routine Lipo and breast lift but look down their nose at the mention of getting WLS. My thing is why cant i wear this decision proudly as a badge of courage for taking my problem by the nuts!? Why do we need to be so secretive? I see this as my fertility treatment, I need to do this to move forward. I need to do this for me emotionally as well. Do we look down at the person who gets a pace maker for their heart? This is my pacemaker...I need to do this to LIVE my life.

way to go...keep up the good work.

Surgery is not a Fix All, it is simply a tool we purchase to help us lose weight, kinda like a diet pill but WAY BETTER! I find some people even if they know you've had the surgery are timid about saying "oh you look great, Keep it up" they will tell a family member who is brave enough to pass along the compliment. And then you have folks who you've known for years who are not aware you have had the surgery and they EXCLAIM IN THE MIDDLE OF PUBLIC "OH MY YOU ARE LOOKING GOO, THERE IS ONLY HALF OF YOU LEFT, WHAT ON EARTH ARE YOU DOING TO YOURSELF" now when this happens you will be completely validated! This happened to me just this week and I've only lost 52 lbs....but this lady just couldn't help herself...and you know what?....It felt great to have such a compliment! Good Luck

Your doing such a great job, no wonder the dr is pleased... I'm so happy for you and keep up the good work...

I have since surgery lost 52 lbs....I have been dwelling on where I had lost the weight...to me my face looks no different (but people keep saying your face is thinner) to me my waist does not feel or look smaller (yet I am wearing a 24 vs. 28)...but I just do not SEE the difference...I still see myself as Fat (well I still am but a thinner fat...LOL) I was sitting in my office yesterday when in came a woman from out in the county who is a very good and loyal customer....Who by the way did not have a clue that I had undergone sleeve surgery. She came in looking to purchase a product and before she could get out what she needed she burst into amazement and said "What on earth are you doing to your self...you are like half the person!' You look absolutely great. You are just glowing....You look Great!" Well Thank You Melinda, for complete validation. I know truly if someone who doesn't know about the surgery can see the loss then there must be some changes happening. I am still swimming 3 X a week for and hour and soon I will begin walking the dog. I am getting ready to redo my dining room and living room, fresh paint and waines coat in the living room. I have so much more energy and my knees have quick screaming and my back doesn't scream as much!

I finally went to Lane Bryant to get fitted for bra's. I"m so sad that the girls are disappearing! UGH! one effect i didnt want. well anyway she helped my find my right size and she asked how i was losing weight and i gladly shared with her about my lap band. She thought it was great. She asked me what size i wore now and i said 12's/ she told me you are too small for anything in our store! I COULD HAVE KISSED HER! never in a million years would i ever think someone would say this to me. And normally i woiuld reward myself with food, but this totally motivated me to hit the gym as soon as i left the store! WOW that felt sooo good!!!

I am a OR nurse so I have a little experience in post op problems. First and foremost is just because this was done with out a large incision, this was still major surgery. ALL MAJOR PROCEDURES TAKE TIME.....Four weeks out is still very much in the recuperating stage. As so many have said, stalls are not uncommon. I too had a little depression afterwards when I would think that what I have done is for ever, that all does go away. I am 5 mos. out and eat what ever I want (of course that amounts to about 3 bites at a setting). But the thing is at this point I don't feel like I am on a diet. I have lost 65 lbs. and now am losing about 2-3 lbs. a week. Try to get the majority of your protein in so you feel good and then my advise is do not deprive yourself if you want something. Remember no matter what you grave it will only be a bite or two so enjoy it in moderation. Good luck, believe me this will all even out. Of course if physical symptoms continue and get worse get medical help.

"When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." ~ Unknown