Stress can really force us bandsters to dig deep into our emotional behaviors and develop new coping stratagies. Sorry for you troubles at work, being a nurse myself and having dealt with passive agressive behavior of superiors over the years I feel your pain. Unfortunatly in our business not always the best people are placed or promoted to the correct postions. A good nurse does not always make a good manager, managing people takes listening and realizing that as a manager you do not always have all the answers and sometimes you have to back up and look at what your doing that is adding to the stress of your staff. I have been in management for more than half of my career and I can tell you that I have been challanged by my staff before and in an open meeting. Yes it made me mad but maybe if I had been listening to my staff they would not have had to take such drastic measures to get my attention. Hopefully your boss is a big enough person to realize that her behavior may be leading to the behavior or frustration of her staff. I wish you luck, the last think our profession needs is to lose good nurses who have compassion and caring and are trying to do the right thing for their patients. After all it is really about the patients not us! Good luck on your journey with WLS and do not let the stress of your job effect your success.