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It brought tears to my eyes reading your post! It reminds me of so many times people are thoughtless. I wish you much happiness and success for the future!

You poor thing! I think people really don't think when they say things, honestly I am sure this was not to be intended as an insult to you, but I guess hearing this person saying that to you when you are feeling lots of different emotions now really hit you hard. Just think you are doing the best thing for you, and had you been 125 lbs, that person would of said the same thing and you wouldn't of taken it so personally. This reminds me when I ran into an old flame of mine that I was just crazy about, he said he missed me and thought about me often, he began to tell me what he missed the most..... My cooking he said. I just remember fighting back the tears as I tried to absorb what he said. I went home and cried, bawled like a baby, and when I stopped I thought about it... and just yelled F U Mother ......... well you can guess the rest Hang in there sweety, hold your head up high, and keep smiling...

Yes, I went through 6 months of dr supervised nutrition classes, sleep study, psych eval, x-rays, blood work, etc. I'm glad that it took six months because during this time I became more knowledgeable of what I'm doing, why I'm doing this, what to expect, and to just feel much more comfortable with the entire process. I didn't want a quick approval process. I feel I'm more prepared and ready to undergo surgery, deal with the post-surgery issues and begin my new lifestyle. Good luck to everyone! Peg

Getting ready to leave for surgery!

Hey, don't worry we all will be drop dead HOT soon enough. Don't ever think the way someone remembers us is a bad thing. It just means we have a spot in their memory bank. Better to be here on earth than not. Big or small. Keep your head up and working hard. Crystal

First of all, I am very sorry that that happened and that your feelings were hurt. I have come to realize that there are simply some people in this world who have a serious gap between their brains and their mouths and I don't know if they mean to be rude or if they are oblivious to just how hateful the words coming out tend to be. It doesn't make it hurt any less. I understand what you are saying. I ask myself all the time how I could have allowed myself to become what I am. I am still the same person but I wear a coat of armor that has been built up over the years as a "protective layer" if you will. As outgoing as I am, privately I am very insecure. I want to be everyone's friend and I want to be the person that is always smiling and positive. I am not always. I have had my share of really insensitive (or blithely unaware) people that have said things that were truly mean. I never really got hurt from people who were being deliberately mean, it was always something like a little kid saying something innocently that hurt me, because kids just see what they see and I had to admit it was true. I had a "mean girl" in college come up to me because she wanted my seat (I sat in like the 3rd row of an auditorium). There were hundreds of empty seats and it was simply her way of exerting herself. She came up and told (not asked) me to move (at the time I was 100 pounds less than I am now) and I said no. She said "well, you don't want to move because you are fat and lazy". I slowly looked up and sizing her up and down (a barbie doll nightmare sorority chick) and said, "Well, there was an intelligent response. Perhaps I should speak with the dean about the state of affairs at this university and how terribly obvious it is that they are scraping the bottom of the barrel for students." She burst into tears, quit the class and I never saw her again. I can be pretty damn mean myself. But anyway, it was always the innocent remarks that stung the worst. I really hope he didn't mean it the way it came out, but if he did, then he is a schmuck. You are taking control of your life and you are beautiful and you are strong. You will become the best you that you can be and I am going to be so thrilled to see how well you do. Take care, Jen

I'm at work and just read this thread...my co-workers (Who can only hear not see me) must think I have lost my mind and went off the deep I can not stop giggling..I just love this forum..I get banded next Tuesday Jan 17th and I'm finding some very interesting and worthwhile information on this site! my jaws are hurting from trying to suppress a loud giggle.. truth be told I would be very uncomfortable asking my male doctor that question..lol

I'm not sure what the original posters reason is for not telling everyone, but I have also made the decision not to tell certain people. However, MOST people do know. There are two key people that I have decided not to tell because they have expressed their negative opinions to me about other people who have had WLS. I just did not wish to have the negativity in my life. I went with my gut and told people who I knew would support me, and they have. I think it's a personal decision for all. Not all people are kind and/or supportive and I believe it's smarter to just not include them.

Just take a DEEP breath, and follow all the steps they tell you to. Its not uncommon for them to require 6 months of documented weigthloss attempts. Sometimes I really think they are attempting to wear your resolve,and hope you'll get frustrated and just walk away MAD..................don't give it to them presist

As far as I know, and have ever heard, Tricare does not require a six month weight management. In fact, their website states they won't even pay for nutritional counseling. They certainly didn't require it when I had my surgery last year. They're considered one of the easiest insurance carriers to get a surgery approval from. I suggest you go back to the Tricare website and print out the requirements, so you can show the insurance coordinator at your surgeon's office. The more proactive you are, the smoother your process will be. Good luck! Dave