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Why do people put stock in these television grandstanders? They're there to make shows and take ratings! I cant stand freaking Dr Phil or Dr Oz. I wouldnt put any stock in what they said - they're selling a product, themselves and their show and like ALL media, you cant place much faith in it. Make your own decisions based on your own research.

I'm definitely not a relationship expert an I'm only 18, but I definitely think I have some good advice. A man, especially your husband, should love, support, and care for you whether or not you are fat, thin, cranky, happy, or upset. A real man in love loves you even in the times that it's not ideal for him. I'm a college aged girl, and I can NEVER imagine myself sleeping with a man your age. I'm just assuming that he's your age. There is definitely something sick going on there, and his "insecurities" are absolutely no excuse for his behavior. Faking break ups should be the last straw. In the end, it's about your happiness. I know you are insecure about the saggy skin, but a man that truly loves you will not care. Your husband does not love you, or at least doesn't show it. My mother lost over 200 pounds with a gastric sleeve and is worried that a man will never find her attractive because of her skin. But like I said, a man that loves you won't give a crap. The job of a husband and wife are to make each other better. That's what you vow to do. Your husband is not making you better and is only making you unhappy. I personally think that there is more to this than "insecurities". He's a flat out cheater, and I think you are giving him too much credit. It would be one thing if he ended the relationship and was remorseful, but the fake break ups etc. are only showing that he does not care. He is just going to get better at hiding it, and even if he breaks up with this one, he is going to find another. In lay man's terms, dump him. I know it will be devastating, but he is doing absolutely nothing for you. There is no amount of insecurities that would constitute his behavior. You are a damn good wife, and you deserve a damn good husband, which he is not. By sitting around, you are just permitting this continutal cheating behavior. He may seem remorseful, but he was good enough at hiding this relationship for a while, I think he can be good enough at faking remorse. If he was remorseful, he would have ended that relationship, which he has not. Please, for your own health, you need to dump him. I know it's your husband and you love him, but he obviously is not treating you with the respect you deserve. You deserve someone so much better who will love you enough not to lie to you. I honestly wish you the best of luck. Seriously, I do not envy your situation. But honestly, it comes down to what's better for you, yourself, and he is not the best thing for you. Elizabeth

Good luck tomorrow! I'm having mine tomorrow also but I don't ave to be at the hospital until noon. I'm going to try to stay up late so I sleep late. No coffee tomorrow is going to be tough. I'm going to need it to keep me calm. I'm so nervous and excited all at the same time. There are a couple of us on here that are having our surgeries tomorrow. Yay us!!!

I've had it happen to me a few times also. Each time was because I did something stupid in which I should know better. Last time was at an Outback Restaurant. My Son ordered coconut shrimp. I grabbed and ate just one. Coconut Shrimp! What was I thinking, or not thinking I should say. Have you ever seen one of those things? Every banded person should easily recognize that as a "Do Not Eat or Else" food.

I get people being scared, it is a transition that is getting us away from the norm. A lot of us have gotten us to the idea of being overweight and eating horrible food. Most have been doing eat the majority of their lives. It started @ childhood for must, I remember my Mom making my plate as a child and we didn't waste food. So you cleaned your plate, full or not you finished. We have developed that mindset as an adult. I found myself using the same method with my children. I am breaking that cycle, I do not want them dealing with weight issues. This will force us to break bad old habits! You will do great, we are here for you and will support you.

Thank you for your wonderful post. I am 8 days post op and I felt I could have written it. I did not feel any hunger until yesterday and then after I ate a few bites I was full. Please keep posting!

Well, since my epiphany, I've lost 1kg! YAY!!!

Most experienced Bariatric Professionals (Surgeons, Drs, Etc) would disagree with that article (and DO). S.

that link is one doctors view.... after 5 years with my band i disagree with that opinion

I hope someone can relate to my situation. I was banded on 11/19/08. I did ok on the pre-op diet until Thanksgiving hit. My doctor said only liquids 2 weeks after surgery as well. I ate a few bites of things I like at Thanksgiving. When I went back for a 2 week check-up, I was chastised for eating scrambled eggs 2 days early. (I didn't dare tell what I had at Thanksgiving!) Anyway,I felt beat down and defeated. Then Christmas came. My total weight loss HAD been 28 lbs. I have gained 7 back and am most disgusted. I've only had 1 fill. I am now at 4.8 cc's, but I don't know the size of my band. I am eating way too much and falling into old habits. How do I start over? I was getting so many nice compliments and it felt so good. Why can't I cling to that and say "no" to food? I have 2 close friends who have been banded. One says I am being too hard on myself and one that reminds me of the "rules of the box". I had no idea that this surgery would be such an emotional roller coaster.:biggrin: