It is hard for a caring mom to take anything for herself. If you want to be the best mom you can be you just have to start chanting the mantra "if I can't take care of myself, I can't take care of anyone else". Congratulations to you for not only making a healthy change for yourself, but for your family as well. Your kids will learn from the examples you set when you are eating properly and become more active. Maybe learning from you will keep them from ever having to suffer what you have.