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So, I stepped on the scale this morning and boy was I surprised. I have lost a total of 26# since my first visit with Dr. McDowell (7/20/11). Can I just say this man is AMAZING. I am so happy I did this. I put on jeans today that I have not worn in more than 9 months. I am so happy with my band. I withstood both Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream and Krispy Kreme donuts this week at work. And the scale rewarded me. As did my closet of Multiple sizes. Time to celebrate. Think I'll have a protein shake.

The easy way out, really? He really is clueless about the entire process! And..IF it were the "easy way out" so what? I mean what the heck is wrong with that? Is taking a car to work the easy way out, instead of walking? Is going food shopping the easy way out, intead of growing your own food? Is using a dishwasher the easy way out-I mean why does life have to be a struggle anyway? He talks to you about what "real women" do....well real men don't put down their wives, real men don't make their wives cry, and real men are supportive of their mates. I agree, you need to get yourself in counseling so you can get some perspective on your situation. You deserve to be treated with love and dignity. After seeing a counselor, please get some legal advise...just in case. During my first marriage my ex cleared out all the bank accounts. Think smart-have a plan-my credit rating was ruined after my divorce. Perhaps a trial seperation might work for you both. Talk to a counseler and talk to a lawyer. Like I said girl, you deserve so much more in your life.

learning to luv.....you have to make your own decisions in the status of your relationship. That in and of itself is a hard one. The band is a process and is by no means an easy way out. You will have to work it everyday and as you learn yourself what your "food / habits in eating" are you will have to identify them and modify your behavior and this will go on for the rest of your life as it is easy to fall back into our old routines of eating. REal women? what would he know? He does not feel your pain, or your angst, and perhaps your fear of not living long enough to be there for your children. The good news for you is that your children are old enough to take care of themselves and to assist you if need be. There are bandsters here that have been banded and their children are small. Selfish? OH, yeah, we are all a bunch of selfish band of people because we would like to live a healthier life and be able to be there for our families and yes, ourselves. You might want to consider counseling for yourself to assist you through this difficult time. Do not let your hubby sabotage you in this process. As you start to lose the weight you will start to feel better and better. If your weight loss is slow...so what you are still losing and punds on the scale is not the lone indicator that you are losing. Your body will reshape. You do need to get moving. Walking is good aim for 30 minutes a day. This will also aid in the healing process, apply a heating pad to your stomach when you sit or lay down. I cannot say where your marriage will go or what the end result will be, but you do have the power to get back on your feet and decide where it is you want to be. Learn to forgive yourself and never stop believing in yourself. I wish you much strength as you go through this phase and it is only a phase, happiness and health!

I suggest counseling for you both. He needs to know that his comments are hurtful and his comments are bringing you down. You have children together and have been married for a long time-try counseling or at the very least have a one to one talk to him letting him know how you feel tell him this will have to change immediately because it's emotionally destroying the love you have for him. If he is unresponsive or simply doesn't seem to care then you need to decide if this is the life you want. I wish you the best!

Wow my heart goes out to you. To me it sounds like your husband has the problem not you. It might be fear that when you loose weight that YOU will not need HIM! Tell us is he over weight at all? If you can You need a support group see if your Dr has one that you might be able to go to. Please keep in remember that you are doing this for you. You have taken a big step in life in getting well and fit. Keep working on yourself as YOU ARE WORTH IT. Take care of YOU! I will be thinking of you. Stay well stay safe god bless you. Mary

sorry you don't have a good support system....that stinks that your husband is being nasty....try to stay positive and know that you have the love and support of people on this board.....i hope you're feeling a bit better tonight....if you ever need someone to talk too, i'd love too....keep me posted on your success:))))) Kim

I am getting my band tomorrow and am trying my hardest to be excited but honestly I'm having trouble. It took me a few days to realize why I wasn't excited and today it finally hit me....I'm not nervous about the procedure (I've had surgery with my dr. before and trust him) I'm nervous that I won't have the self control to do this. I'm nervous because I'm sitting here fasting (Clear liquids only all day today) and all I want is a sandwich and that worries me. I'm trying really hard to focus on what the results can be. Earlier today I went online and found pictures of all the things I want but can't have because of my weight (ex: knee high boots, a flattering trench coat, a bracelet I LOVE but it can't fit around my wrist). So I can only tell you that I'm not super excited but I know that I don't regret my decision...I'm just not jumping up and down about it. I hope to get there the first time I hit a new goal....That will be a very exciting moment for me. I wish you the best of luck!!

200 lbs gone in 2 years. No, the band doesn't work. I work the band.

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First things first-this IS a learning process so I don't know where you get off with your high than mighty attitude. You don't know the first thing about me or the changes I have made in my lifestyle. I am not sure if you have been banded yet or if you have lost any weight-but it is a struggle and frustrating when you are in "bandster hell." Having proper restriction with help with hunger and help "food to rub against your nerves" without that kind of restriction it isn't any different than before the band-that's why fills are important. I do have Protein in the mornings but not solid protein-as many successful bandsters have yogurt or shakes in the mornings. I don't know how long you have been on this forum but we offer advice without judgement and we are supportive of each other on this process. I don'tthink anyone of us expects perfection-it is definitely a learning process. If we are were perfect at following rules we would never have been overweight in the first place. How many diets have YOU been on? How many rules have YOU broken while on them? So get on your pedestal and if you can't offer nonjudgemental, supportive advice then don't offer any!