I'm trying not to overreaact, but I think I may have been dumped. Things were going great with the new guy and then suddenly he's been MIA for the past two days. I've been super busy so I didn't really notice, but I posted a note to him on Facebook and I'm pretty sure he deleted it. I swear I am cursed when it comes to luck with dating. It's only been a week or so, so I'm not really emotionally involved, but I did like him. He mentioned some ex girlfriend who lives out of town who had been contacting him trying to get back together with him. Maybe he took her up on her offer and didn't send me the memo? Or maybe he's just busy and accidentally deleted my comment?

Who knows? I know I didn't do anything wrong. I didn't sleep with him or have drama or anything consequential enough to warrant a sudden change in attiude. He seemed really sincere, but maybe he was just trying to get laid and since I didn't accommodate, he moved on.

I'm pretty much ready to give up on dating, period. The worst possible thing to me is dishonesty and every guy I seem to go out with turns out to be shady. I try not to sound jaded, but if I gave you a synopsis of all the guys I've dated, they have one common thread. And lately, my relationships seem to be getting shorter and shorter. This one barely lasted a week! I know I did get a little too caught up in the possibilities since he seemed really genuine and sensitive, etc. He was the one who kept talking about how he wanted to get married some day (not necessarily to me, just in general! ) Whatever it is, I really need to concentrate on me first. This was a wake up call no matter what the situation with him is. My focus needs to be on me and my weight loss, health and fitness. It just gets lonely since I live alone and alot of my friends live out of town. I guess I was hoping this was the start of something really great.

I'm not going to let it get me down though. Everything else in my life is going really well.

You're such a smart gal...have your head together! Send him another message, just in case, and move on. You're ready for a relationship, you're happy with yourself and life, so it will happen for you soon. Just be aware of that 'common thread'...it's like that weight loss saying...if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten. Love will find you, just be open for it and get out there in new environments. Dear Lord, me given dating advice, and I've been married 26 years...sorry, I'm used to doing this with DD and my DB. -BG

Hello trinu4ufi,I am sorry if it was me I would not call or email this man again,he is not that into to you,besides a man that is into to you will not go 1 DAY without tslking or emailing you he will find the time,I am talking from experience same thing happened to me but lucky for you it has only been a week me i was talking to the guy for 3 months,he was talking all the right things that I wanted to hear (marriage,traveling,etc.. then suddenly he stop returning my calls in emails.I was hurt in the begining but that just made me wiser,remember this while we are single we need not just to date only one guy,we have to explore our options, so that being said date date in more date until you find the right guy.first I will focus on yourself get to know you!!!!!!!! wish you all the best.

Thanks! I need all the advice I can get!!!