My surgery is on August 5th. I'm scared to death. I am going to miss food so much. It's such a part of my life. Social activites, dating, celebrations and work. I'm starting to feel a werid vibe from some of my friends that are big too. I have been fat all my life and I don't know if everyone's ready for me to be thin. Some people are saying what about all the loose skin you're going to have. I just say I'd rather have that than fat.

I don't really have any health issues yet, thank god, but I know that was just a matter of time. My only real health issue and the main purpose for this surgery is to help my back. I have severe back problems and I'm hoping this will help.

I'd appreciate any advise and/or encouragement.

This is my first time on a blog site so pardon the mistakes.

I completely feel your pain! I am still looking into the surgery, but the more I read on here, the better it looks. I think the surgery is what is going to scare me the most, mainly because I hate needles and such, but I'm so ready to lose the weight.

Another thing that scares me is my family's obsession with food. Every time anyone has a party, there's a TON of food. This isn't a problem for most of my family because they can stop themselves, but I just can't. I tried Jenny Craig at one point and they asked me why I have weight issues and I told them it was because I love food and everything about it. The lady looked at me like I was nuts!

The more I read on here, the more I think I'm not going to tell my friends and co-workers. I will tell my family and best friends, but no one else. A lot of people on here have told me that it's really none of anyone else's business how I lose the weight, which is a good point. "I started exercising more and cut back on the amount I eat." It's not a lie!

I'm to the point where I need to find a doctor. How did you find yours?

Well in Lincoln, Nebraska there's only one doctor that does the surgery.

Now I wish that I never told anyone about my surgery. They're all going to be watching what I eat and if I eat something I shouldn't I'll be getting the "Evil Eye".

From what I've read, I think that your friends will be more surprised at how little you're eating instead of what you're eating. Hopefully they'll just be supportive and not overbearing, like I'm sure my family will be.

It's funny because I just brought up the surgery to my dad and he freaked out. He basically said that this wouldn't work for me because nothing else has, and I should just suck it up and stick with a diet. It's so easy for people who haven't had to battle with their weight to say things like that. I love my dad and I know he wants me to succeed, but I know he and my mom will be scrutinizing everything I put into my mouth. How has your family responded?

I appreciate the posts. I, like you "ScaredtoDeath" am in the process of trying to determine if it's actually something I will do. The Pro's definitely outweigh the Con's, but nevertheless it's surgery and the alteration of the body. My concerns? Leakage,weight gain after the first two years, but more than anything what am I to say to my kids. My son (9) is starting to eat more than his fair share and I see him having problems if I don't intervene. Question...how do you tell your kids to watch what there eating if you can't? It's a serious question that I haven't heard many people talk about. Once the surgery is done (I expect to have surgery Feb/Mar) what do I tel my son when he tells me he's upset with himself because of the habits he's engaged in. He's already had people make fun of him and will not take his shirt off at the pool. This is exactly how it started with me. I was 160 lbs in 6th grade, 300 in 9th grade, and now 350lbs at age 34. Although, I have lost 100lbs twice in my life it's never stayed off and my Doctor thinks I'm an ideal Candidate for this type of Surgery. As you can tell, I'm a bit twisted...

Sorry I haven't got back to you. I am sort of going through the same thing. I have a 6 year old and she's chunky. She was normal sized until she was 3 and then I don't know what happened. The last thing I want is for her to go through the same thing I did. I can remember being in 4th grade and having to get weighed and I was 160 pounds already and going to the bathroom and crying after that I stayed at about 180 until I was about 33 years old and now that I'm 42 I weigh 326. I try to talk to her but I don't think she quite understands it all. She says kids say things and I tell just to ignore them. I don't know how she got so big so fast. At school she eats the right stuff and I try at night but sometimes she cries that she's hungry. She's also very active I couldn't even get her to sit down to watch a movie until she was 4.

I think when I have my surgery I'm just going to explain to her how drastic this is and I hope that she never has to do it. I'm also going to act like it's the most painful thing in the world maybe than that will stick in her mind.

Well I'm at work so I need to go. I understand your hesitation with getting the surgery. I still don't know if it's the right thing to do. But I know I need to do something. The whole process to get to surgery day took about six months so you do have time to get ready, even though I don't know if I'm ready or not.

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Sorry I haven't got back to you. I am sort of going through the same thing. I have a 6 year old and she's chunky. She was normal sized until she was 3 and then I don't know what happened. The last thing I want is for her to go through the same thing I did. I can remember being in 4th grade and having to get weighed and I was 160 pounds already and going to the bathroom and crying after that I stayed at about 180 until I was about 33 years old and now that I'm 42 I weigh 326. I try to talk to her but I don't think she quite understands it all. She says kids say things and I tell just to ignore them. I don't know how she got so big so fast. At school she eats the right stuff and I try at night but sometimes she cries that she's hungry. She's also very active I couldn't even get her to sit down to watch a movie until she was 4.

I think when I have my surgery I'm just going to explain to her how drastic this is and I hope that she never has to do it. I'm also going to act like it's the most painful thing in the world maybe than that will stick in her mind.

Well I'm at work so I need to go. I understand your hesitation with getting the surgery. I still don't know if it's the right thing to do. But I know I need to do something. The whole process to get to surgery day took about six months so you do have time to get ready, even though I don't know if I'm ready or not.

ScaredtoDeath

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