thought i would write on here, because i am rubbish at keeping normal diaries, i always put them somewhere and then can not figure out where i have put them!!

my journey started about 2 moonths ago, when i saw something on TV, can not remember what it was and i thought that looks like something i want to do. so i started reserching madly (once i get my head into doing something, i put my all into it) and went for a consult. that was just over 2 weeks ago. i was so nervous, not when i was nearly there, but when i was about an hour away.

i have no idea what i am going to be like on surgery day, if i was that nervous. i have my pre-op on the 17th july. (must double check that, because i have something planned ont eh 19th and keep getting the dates mixed up). and if that all goes ok, my op is booked for the 1st august.

the major issue i have got, is that i do not want to tell people, because my familly have always been on at me about what i eat, how much i exercise etc. as they are all thin, apart from my sister who is now compaining that she is 10.5 st, she is expecting a baby and is 17 weeks gone. i would love to be able to go to the extended family at christmas and them to be amazed at the new me and the changes that the band have helped me make. and that is why i am not telling anyone.

however, i have to find someone who is wiling to stay with me for the first 24hrs after i leave hospital and therefore i told my friend, who i have known since i was 11. told her it was a secret and therefore she wa snot allowed to tell anyone. and she said that she would try and get the fri (my op day) off work and drive down. however, she phoned me last night, to say she could not get the friday off as someone else at her work has already got that day off.

i am getting really worried about not being able to sort this situation out, without telling some of the people i really do not want to know. and with each passing day, i need to decide what to do and quickly.

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If you decide to let your family, or just a selected few know about the band really have a talk with them about how they can support you. Positive not negative words. Nonverbal support-staying with you while you recover.

Most of the time we overestimate the negative response of our friends and family. But you know them best. But know this: it is important to have a good support system in place before you are banded. You will need them for your best success.

Good luck with your journey.

Amanda

Except for getting a ride home from the hospital and then get you inside and situated, you don't need much care after banding. I am pretty much on my own and have been doing fine. Just make sure to have your prescriptions filled before surgery and have your broth, jello, heating pad, thermometer, gas strips, etc. in the house. Good luck!