so just a week ago i was ranting about "a skinny bitch" without really thinking about what's happening here.

i'll explain.

tonight i went out for dinner with "that" girl...otherwise known as my best friend (one of two). She's thin..like size 4 thin...but growing up (when i was a size 8) she admitted to being jealous of me. why? no idea.

so we sit down at Houlihan's and things are just weird. i mean she's being "nice" but she's distant. then i'm being weird because she's being weird so the entire situation was just WEIRD.

i ordered grilled shrimp and california mashers...tried my best to talk like normal (we used to be the girls who laughed so hard people would stare)..now we were in and out of the restaurant in 35 minutes. 35 LONG minutes. I don't understand.

I mean..i can be tough..and most days i am..i am my own champion because i've learned that no one else will be. but that hurts..i mean we're friends for 13 years! I thought this was going to come as i got thin...i'm no where near that point...

when you prepare for the band they don't talk about how others who were supposed to be friends may turn their backs on you. they don't explain why girls are so friggin jealous and how to cope with the loss. i can see this is the beginning of the end...but i suppose if that's in fact true..it was never a friendship to begin with.

I you value the friendship and the memories with this person it is worth a try at talking it out and getting to the heart of the matter.

Just ask her whats up? Let her know you don't want to lose her as a friend.

Talk to her about what it is like being your size. Talk about the band have her ask questions. Ask if she is afraid of loosing ya'lls freindship because of you loosing weight. She might feel this and don't know how to deal with it. Just Talk

I am sorry for your loss. I was "dumped" by my best friend years ago. Not over weight loss, but because she and I took different paths. I didn't see it, but she did.

Honestly, I think losing a best friend is worse than losing a lover...It hit me harder, anyway.

I hope things work out between the two of you, and maybe you are close enough you can discuss it with her?

Good luck.

Be straight up with her. If she is really interested in keeping the friendship she will fess up to her feelings. It may work or it may not.

I have just started my journey and i am already gettign wiered reactions from my 4 best friends( i have knows for over 15-20 years). I guess i was always the fat friend that had a good sence of humor. Now one of my friends just had her 3rd baby and has gained a good 80lbs. She is very vain and insecure and by the comments she has made to me i can tell she is feeling jelous about my surgery and afraid that soon i will be weighing less that her. I know there will be a point when i will have to talk to her and tell her that the comments need to stop. I dont want to loose my friends but if they are going to put me down that i must move on.

Good luck