Today I am 17 days post op, physically feeling great but recently had a situation that honestly I still am baffled about.

I am a friendly, helpful person. Typically I like the people I meet and show a genuine interest in their lives because I truly am interested. I love meeting people from all over the world, but I hold a special affection for people who know about my home town. This affection seems to have backfired.

4 days post op I came on this site and as usual chatted with a number of people, but one in particular seemed to think, at least for a while, that I might be the one. I knew this wasn't going to be the case for many reasons, but tried to be amicable and helpful in his process to have WLS. Everything was on the up and up until for whatever reason now he won't talk to me. It's irritating for me to put in my time and energy into being concerned about someone only to find out that they are immature and can't deal with whatever conflict that percolated through his skull. This is a WLS support website not a dating site.

I don't understand men. This seems to be a typical scenario for online interactions with men for me. I'm very easy to like, I'm intelligent, I show genuine interest but there is no way in hell that I would fall in love with someone that I have never met face to face. I'm not insane. Besides that at the moment I am going through the toughest, most emotional transformation in my 40 years and building a romantic relationship is way down on the list of priorities. My top priority is Hydration... with a side of increasing Protein levels.

I hate fake people. I don't think it's fair to have unreasonable expectations from anyone on this site, especially new post ops. I'm more upset at the fact that its made me hesitant to come back on to chat. I love the friendships I have built here and seeing him come online now is just disturbing. To go from being extremely friendly and jovial to making snide comments for no apparent reason is pure insanity.

I'm not gonna let it deter me though. If you are going through something similar or perhaps in your personal life you have people pressuring you into a relationship when you aren't interested I hope that you can find comfort in the fact that you are the normal one in that situation.

I have a very particular taste in men, none of which have anything to do with his waist size. I make no apologies for it. I'm hoping to find that perfect one and feel like this transformation is a tribute to what my devotion will be to him.

Just thought I'd vent for a moment. Please share your thoughts and stories.