I've heard a lot of great ways to respond to people when they ask how you lost or are loosing the weight. I don't like lieing so this to me is the best way to answer the question......lots of water, protein and exercise. This way you choose if you want people to know about the surgery and your being honest

I started telling people over a year ago when I was researching and of course there were good and bad comments. Now i'm approaching the surgery date 9/26. My kids kind of know but I haven't talked to them about when. My reason why is because the 2 that I would tell are 15 and 10 I want them to have everything go as normal. I've arranged for them to spend the night at their friends, my oldest who's doesn't live here, and my youngest will stay with my husband. My husband says its up to me. The reason I don't want to tell the kids is because they won't want to go to school, worry about everything and when I had my 15 year old worrys so much she gets ill.

I'm blessed to have a wonderful husband who supports me and is here for me. He tells me that i'm perfect and don't need the surgery but has seen me try and fail at other diets and trying everything.

My sister doesn't know because she's been really busy but when I did tell her she said she would like to do it after my research and my surgery. My mom would worry to much and she's an epileptic and I don't want her to have a seizure. My husband told his brother and he said why and says that he's here for me.

Am I doing the right thing by not telling everyone? Do I want them to worry? Is it better to tell them afterwards? Or to tell them at all?

Ok now that i'm done babbling. I just have had this on my mind a lot and now that i'm done this has helped me get this out. Its weighed heavy on my mind and shoulders.

I feel in my heart that i'm doing the right thing by not telling and worrying everyone.