Why are you with someone who is so unsupportive? Maybe she is jealous? Feeling threatened you are looking too good and might leave? I donno, just my 2 cents.

I don't know what the issue is. She is usually very supportive. I don't know what to think anymore, my body image is so out of whack. What I see in the mirror is not what I see in photographs. But if she is jealous or feeling threatened, she should be doing the opposite, not what she's doing now.

Sounds to me like you guys need to have a real heart-to-heart. In my psych eval we covered this... weight loss just like weight gain can put a strain on any relationship... that she had it too though her reactions really surprise me..

You guys may need some kind of couples counseling to actually fetter out what is bothering her and why she isn't as enthused about the new you....because I doubt it will just go away on its own.

Joe - This is a wierd place to be in. You have been so successful and dedicated. It really may be that she is jealous. I don't kow her so I cannot judge but it seems like you two need to talk about it. If you don't you will begin to resent her and that will not be good for you or your relationship. You are a great man and I am sure that she knows it...she may not realize how much it really hurts you!

Don't forget that you are the BEST and also deserve the BEST!! <3

You have done an amazing job and you do look great. I'm glad to hear that your weight is leveling off, since you don't want to go too far. As far as your wife's journey with WL as compared to yours, it really sounds like she's on a different path or has different motivations than you. Your success isn't apparently the same as her success, so she isn't reacting the way you're expecting. I agree with above comments about the heart to heart and the idea of couple's counseling to be sure you are both still on the same track - it's good to check in.

Also, if your weight is leveling off finally - it might truly be time to get to that more upscale department store where a menswear expert can "fit" you for your new body shape - from t-shirts to jeans and dressier clothes, fit can really make that difference and you sure deserve it after such amazing work and success! Good luck!

Has she lost as much weight as you? Guys seem to lose faster then the ladies, and your success on losing more then her may be making her a little jealous....also she probably never thought she had to worry about competition because she thought you were to big for other women to come on to you now, and so now she feels insecure in your relationship. Just a few theory's. good luck!

She's done pretty well, down 55 lbs since April 19. She could do better, but she doesn't follow all "the rules". She doesn't always do the protein shakes, eats things like ice cream, and drinks these frapuccino things that she gets from Costco, even drinks soda occasionally. I don't dare say anything. She would get defensive, and tell me that I need to start eating those things. There could be something to the completion thing, I'm 15 lbs lighter than she's ever known me to be. I mentioned that to her, that she's never known me this thin, and just has to get used to it. Her reply? That she would have never dated me if I was this thin. SMH.

Your journey is your journey , and hers is hers. You need to be firm with your wife and tell her u like yourself at this w,eight and that u will not go back to your old ways and put back weight on. Set boundaries with her ..you can make a choivce and don't let her comments bother you. Be firm and tell her you won't put up with her negative comments. This is an issue she needs to resolve for herself..don't try to figure why she is doing this.. Concentrate on keeping your health in check.

Counseling can be a real boon to a relationship, when both parties commit to examination and change. I'm sad to hear your wife has changed her attitude and reaction to you. I'm sure the reasons are complicated and doubt either one of you can figure it out. This is where counseling comes in.

The fact that she's eating ice cream and consuming things that may be bad for her, is a definite sign that something is wrong with ... her. She probably wants you to join in so she'll feel less guilty. After all, if you were eating ice cream, maybe you'd be heavier and she'd be happier.

I once dated a guy 10 years younger than me. It wasn't a big deal for me, so I didn't come up right away. When it did, though, he told me the same thing. We broke up a short time later ... not because of that, but it was telling.

Plz don't let her sabotage all ur hard work and effort in ur weight loss journey! U have worked too long n hard to revert bk to what u were. If therapy doesn't wrk, I would suggest a temp separation, it sounds like u r very upset with her and she doesn't seem to care abt ur feelings. Im not trying to b harsh, but u gotta do what u gotta do!