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Little Support with My Decision

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ReEstDec2013

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I did not make the decision to have this procedure done overnight. It took me a year. Last year I was thinking about it and said to myself "I don't need surgery. I can do it on my own" and I did. Lost 30 pounds with watching what I was eating, drank plenty of water and exercising. I felt GREAT :) , but put 40 pounds back on during the holiday season and felt like CRAP :( again! When that happened to me that was when I reconsider my decision, did all my research and said to myself, "I am tired of being overweight and ready for a change". Now I am on my road to getting it done, but my husband, some friends and my mother are not on board with my decision. My mother has a good reason as my sister had the bypass and suffered many complications in result to that surgery. My sister went from about 400 pounds to about 140. She does not look healthy at all. Therefore, my mother is afraid for her second daughter to go through the same issues. I told my mother this is a different procedure and I will be OK. I am a strong believer in positive thoughts brings positive results. As for my husband, we are not in good terms so I think it is more of an insecure issue with him. My friends, I think it is more jealousy. Overall, it makes me sad that they feel this way, but does not sway me any other way with my decision.

I am looking forward to being healthier. Looking forward to doing activities I know I an not phsycially able to do now and just overall being happier.

I am moving forward with my decision with or without their support. :D

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i think you are doing the right thing by having the surgery and you have my support. i'm 3 weeks post op have had no complications am feeling great and couldn't be more happier with my decision to have it done . good luck to you ..

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Good for you! I will say when I first mentioned having the sleeve done, my husband was not exactly thrilled. When we talked about his reluctance for me to have the sleeve it turns out he, like most people, didn't differentiate between the sleeve and gastric bypass. He knew someone who had bypass done 15 years ago and she had a bunch of complications. I gently mentioned that technology has changed in 15 years lol I explained to him what I knew about the sleeve and why I thought it was a good option for me. I also brought him with me to the informational seminar my center gives and as luck would have it it was given by the surgeon I wanted to perform my surgery. Hubby felt much better after this.

Having said that, he's the only one I've told about my decision. I just don't want to have to spend the next 3 months explaining myself and my decision. I know before I did a lot of research I was pretty ignorant when it comes to WLS - all I knew was I knew people from a former job who had had bypass and wound up gaining a lot of weight back. I suspect I'll tell my in laws as the time gets closer. Other than that, I don't feel the need to broadcast it. I plan on getting support from my husband, the support group at the center, and here :)

Best of luck to you on your journey!

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i think you are doing the right thing by having the surgery and you have my support. i'm 3 weeks post op have had no complications am feeling great and couldn't be more happier with my decision to have it done . good luck to you ..

Thank you faurgb! Truly appreciate your support!

Wishing you tunes of success on your journey to a healthier you! Can't wait to see your process. :-)

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Good for you! I will say when I first mentioned having the sleeve done, my husband was not exactly thrilled. When we talked about his reluctance for me to have the sleeve it turns out he, like most people, didn't differentiate between the sleeve and gastric bypass. He knew someone who had bypass done 15 years ago and she had a bunch of complications. I gently mentioned that technology has changed in 15 years lol I explained to him what I knew about the sleeve and why I thought it was a good option for me. I also brought him with me to the informational seminar my center gives and as luck would have it it was given by the surgeon I wanted to perform my surgery. Hubby felt much better after this.

Having said that, he's the only one I've told about my decision. I just don't want to have to spend the next 3 months explaining myself and my decision. I know before I did a lot of research I was pretty ignorant when it comes to WLS - all I knew was I knew people from a former job who had had bypass and wound up gaining a lot of weight back. I suspect I'll tell my in laws as the time gets closer. Other than that, I don't feel the need to broadcast it. I plan on getting support from my husband, the support group at the center, and here :)

Best of luck to you on your journey!

Thank you Mfs. So good to hear your experience and how you handled it with your hubby.

I sat down with my husband and showed him everything, but he is still not happy with my decision. Maybe one day he will be OK with my decision. As for telling my family and some friends, I should have done what you had done. Kept it to myself. One friend I spoke too actually had the sleeve and I never knew it. She looks GREAT and she told me not to tell anyone else because it is my business, my decision and that I will find people, friends/family, that will not accept my decision. So she was the last person I told. Everyone else can think otherwise.

Thank you again for sharing your experience and all the BESTto you on your journey to a healthier you! :-)

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