I don't know if this is the right time to suggest this, but there was a psychologist on Oprah years and years ago who was speaking on lopsided relationships. She suggested that instead of thinking "I love him/her - why do they treat me this way?" Start thinking "Why would I love someone who treats me this way?" Well, this change in perspective got me out of a dark way a couple of times. P.S. I don't like confrontation either. Oh man, sorry for the tough love, but here goes..... If this is your normal instead of an isolated incident, why are you still there? I had an ex-husband who isolated me (geographically and emotionally) from my family and friends for ten long years, so I guess I just have a zero tolerance on controlling behaviors now. It took a violent death threat for me to realize that my patient longsuffering endurance was not going to keep me happy or alive. I am sorry that this person is running interference on your desire to communicate with another person. Come on back and talk to us some more. Maybe some one else has a more clinical and less sensitive take on this than I do.

Well when it comes down to it, you can only control your own actions, attitudes and acceptance level. You can stay in a relationship you KNOW is not going anywhere, and hope and wish that things will change. But if you already know, (I know in my heart we're not meant to be, the love is there...but not much else.. IDK.) what are you wasting your time for???

When you were describing your girlfriend, it sort of reminded me of myself and things my husband gets frustrated with me for. I don't know your whole situation, but is it possible that she is just dealing with things the best that she can and in all the chaos, stopping for emotional support is the last thing on her mind, as she is busy supporting someone else. What if she feels like she can't stretch herself around enough right now, between her mom needing her, and you needing her to know that you support her. Please note, I could be so far off on this, I just know that is how I feel when I am in those situations and my husband feels like I am shutting his support out. Its not because it isn't deeply appreciated, its just that it may not be completely needed at that point. Just put the words out there, I am here for you, and when she wants to take you up on that, how fortunate she is to have someone like you in her corner. With all that said, if she is chronically like this, it isn't necessarily a bad thing on her part. You may just be better suited with another personality type. My husband has just come to accept that sometimes I shut him out, for reasons that have nothing to do with him.