hi jillian, i'm sorry to hear what a bad time youve had personally, but there is light at the end of the tunnel, you are going for this amazing surgery and it will give you much more self confidence. I am only 3 weeks out, but already feeling more attractive and better about myself. I am also a woman who has delt with infidelity and I know how bad that is on your self esteem. But remember they become x's for a reason!! I am now happily married and have been for 5 years (he was also cheated on) life gets better and with the new you around the corner there will be no stopping you healing that heart!!

best of luck rachel.

Oh Dear!!! You concentrate on yourself and your son - that's all that matters! Men can be more trouble than they are worth. You are young and about to start a new life - forget men for a few years and get yourself together. When you are at peace with yourself this time in your life will seem trivial. Hang in there!!!

You've done the right thing by asking him to pick up his things. It's time for you to concentrate on yourself and your wonderful son. Life's too short to waste time being with someone who doesn't make you feel good. And I mean it -- love is supposed to feel GOOD! And.... you want your son to know that you are a strong, happy, healthy woman. You're doing the right thing.

It's natural to be sad when a relationship ends... but you've got quite an adventure coming up that will help distract you!

I send good thoughts your way. We're all pulling for you!

Onward!!

I am so sorry....my heart hurts for you. You did the right thing and count this as a blessing. It may not feel like a blessing but God just did you a huge favor. Now it's time to focus on the amazing future ahead....with you leading the charge. Remember that courage is found when times are tough. You have courage.

Oh, my heart breaks for you. I also have been exactly where you are and it's such a horrible time. Just try to focus on positive things... You are heading down a new path now and life will only get better and better. You deserve to be happy and to be treated like a princess.. It's funny how life turns out though always when a door closes, a window will open and just around the corner is your Prince Charming. Take care and know that us on line friends are only a click away.... Out here in cyber space I will be thinking of you and your little boy. I hope that you find true happiness. Take care, chin up and soldier on xx

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I feel surprisingly better today. I still have a little anxious tugging feeling in my heart now and again, but after a good nights sleep (he still didnt show up or call or even text) I feel like I am seeing things more clearly. I am too old for this crap and I have a wonderful baby to think about. I wouldnt take this nonscense from my ex husband, I wont take it from Justin. You guys are right...

15 more days until my flight - pre-op diet starts tomorrow (just have to tweak what I am doing now)... so lots to focus on.