No I don't think you are being petty at all. People can be so insensitive and selfish.

You are NOT being petty. It seems to me she either has a narcissistic personality where she thinks the whole world revolves around her and heaven forbid that you get any attention, or she might see you as possible competition down the road for whatever.

This isn't the type of person I'd hang around with a lot.

Congrats on your upcoming surgery, I am scheduled for May 6th. I am so nervous and feel your pain with your co-worker. She may be getting jealous, afraid you might be competition. I guess I'm still old fashion, I still believe beauty comes from within and personality is everything. So don't let her get you down. But i have lived your same story!

Thanks everyone for the kind words. You all have really helped turn my day around.

mcindy, I hope that everything goes well for your surgery. You've made it this far!

I'm so excited you have upcoming surgery. Mine is 5.01.13 in Houston area.

The only advice I could give right now that you should stay true to yourself and your goals. Good things will happen to you and it will feel awesome. Wishing you best of luck!

I don't think you are being petty at all and sometimes it helps to vent. But remember that her reality is her reality--it actually would suck to have to get all new clothes from gaining weight, even if it is a size 2 to a size 6. I would try not to compare yourself to her (I know it's difficult!) and think of her as an ally. Remember that she may be trying to be supportive in her own way...and if not, you can distance yourself. But remember...keep your friends close, and your "enemies" closer! LOL. You never know, she may end up being a great part of your support system! If she is trying to be healthy too it will be nice to have someone else there who is eating healthy, and maybe you can even go on walks together at lunchtime--etc.

First of all I totally get where you are coming from. I am surrounded by alot of those at work myself . I call them "THE PERFECTS" . It was hard at first to get used to having them in my face all the time but after 13 years with being around most of them I have come to the conclusion, that most of them do not intend to harm and truly feel that way about themselves even at 120lbs. They have never been heavy so at 120 you put on 10 lbs they feel it they see it. So yes they are going to complain about it just like we would . I think most of them just really dont know any better nor do they know the impact their words have on us. I dont know your co worker personally so i dont know if shes the vindictive type if so, you had some good advice earlier from TES but you dont have to give her a play by play if thats the case. If not dont let her ruin your good happy thoughts. Stay true to yourself, and please dont refer to yourself as a troll ....... YOUR A BEAUTIFUL GIRL!!! and about to just keep on getting better. Hope you have a better day.

Not petty. I totally get it. I work with 2 teeny tiny perfect little snots that like to rub in the fact that they just cant gain weight no matter what they do and 'oh no, my size 4's are too big now'. I too snapped one day and got up in one of thier faces and said "continue to tell the fat girl how skinny you are, keep it up". She was like "oh i didnt mean it like that". Really? How DID you mean it then? Ive always had snide remarks made towards me because I wasnt skinny perfect like other people. I wonder if they think karma wont catch up to them one day.

I'm so excited you have upcoming surgery. Mine is 5.01.13 in Houston area.

The only advice I could give right now that you should stay true to yourself and your goals. Good things will happen to you and it will feel awesome. Wishing you best of luck!

Please let me know how you do, may help be prepare for mine. Good Luck!

I understand. Yes they don't get it. Understand that if you were drenched she may be the girl to try to offer you a shirt that you or I could never fit into as we are now. Maybe she is just that humble. I would also get frustrated but maybe she didn't mean to be insensitive. She is only trying to relate to her own life experience. Just another angle of things.... I know a few women like this and they really do care about me when they act this way.. Congrats on the approval! Good luck!

Okay, so I work with one of those too. She is my age 50, and slim and beautiful so much so that our pics are posted on the walls with our kids etc...someone asked me if she was my daughter-yep that's how bad I look-balloned up to 290 lbs. When I had to arrange for her to work for me so I can have this surgery. 04/22/13 she told me she was going to be jealous that I was going to be able to loose weight so easy. She has gained a few pounds (menopause) prob a size 4 now. These people have no idea what it is to be obese-moribidly obese, to suffer medical conditions because of it. Going from a size 2 to 4 is not a life threatening thing. Get a grip people....

You're 100% correct! People just don't get it! Here I was in my hospital bed on Tuesday and in walks my Dad with his new girlfriend. (He had by-pass surgery 7 years ago and has had many young girlfriends ever since).... Well, in they walk (mind you she is not as young, she is actually 53 but in amazing shape). I am doped up on morphine and soooo nauseas and she says "Oh Joy, Look!! I made the kids cookies with peanut butter cups inside of them!!!" I wanted to stuff the cookies down her throat! Are you kidding me? I just had gastric surgery and will not taste a cookie for months and you want to bring them to my bedside? Then tells my Dad "Let's go to the cafeteria and have a snack. Joy, do you want anything?" HELLO????? Can someone seriously be that lost?? And there's my father laughing about it, if it was him in the bed after his surgery he would of bit her head off! I am honestly noticing that people just don't get what it's like to be overweight because of medical issues, I think they think we just eat all day long!!

She obviously doesn't get where you coming from, but I can kinda see her as trying to be your ally... I mean, you were having a conversation about something she had also done, but for different reasons. Keep in mind that people rarely see themselves the way others see them. Like you said, you look at yourself in the mirror and think "not bad", then look at those pictures of yourself and say OOF. Well, she may not see a beautiful person when she looks in the mirror. She sees herself gain 4 pant sizes and she feels fat/unattractive/sad, whatever. I mean, we'd be sad if we gained 4 pant sizes, so the fact that she went from size 2 to 6 shouldn't mean she's not entitled to feel like she needs to do something about it.

But I get it. We, as big people, know that she's not being looked at as or treated like a fat person is treated. She doesn't understand where you're coming from completely because the world doesn't treat her the way big people are treated. But that doesn't mean she doesn't struggle with it internally or that you both couldn't learn something from each other.

I can totally understand where you're coming from feeling hurt by it. But I think you should try just a little not to let your emotions get the better of you. I think from her perspective, you come off looking selfish. I'm not saying you ARE, I'm just saying that might be how she's feeling. Like she shared something with you and you snapped at her. After all, she's not trying to get in shape to make you mad - she's trying to improve herself just like you are. I think if you can get this little bump straightened out, she might actually be a good friend to have as she can help you with exercising more...

Anyway, you definitely need to be careful when you share the news of surgery. I'd rather keep it a secret that risk someone saying something that would piss me off - cuz I'd probably react just as you did. I'm only good at seeing both sides when I'm not on one!!

My advice is to ignore her mind warped sense of selfishness. McBarbie, will soon find out that your inner strength and determination go far beyond her size 6. You WILL DO THIS!!!! You are a strong woman just by reading this blog post. Let this be a driving force to push you and rise above her pettiness. It doesn't matter how much you weigh, you could be a stick and still have more compassion to others than her. I wish you the best of everything and ALWAYS remember we are a community here who are right with you!!!

Thanks everyone for the kind and encouraging words. Also, thanks to everyone that helped me see that even though I think she is gorgeous, she has her own struggles too. Really put everything into perspective for me.