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Feeling Alone

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GoldyGirl

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I am starting to Feel Scared and Alone....I talk to my husband who tries to be supportive, but as someone that HAS NEVER been over Weight for more than 10 lbs, and Loses it Easy, I feel he DOES not understand....I will be Sleeved on Jan 9, and Excited, but feel alone on this journey, ......... I feel like i am going to have to "break" up with My Best Friend, FOOD............ Am I NUTS????

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No, you are not nuts. Don't discount your feelings and you are indeed breaking up with food, but trust me, you will learn that food is NOT your best friend. It is your crutch maybe, but certainly not your best friend. It's what got you to this point, it's what got all of us to this point.. friends don't do that. It's like the old friends don't let friends drive drunk.. LOL (well, I tried! :) ) Let your husband be supportive as he knows how, you will find if he's supportive now, he will probably be even more so afterwards. Mourn food, it's ok to do that and start a new kind of relationship with it... Accept his support the way he is offering it, it sounds like he's trying. He probably doesn't know exactly what you are going through, how could he? He's not in your shoes..My husband has always been thin too and never struggled with is weight... BUT he saw me struggle, he saw me cry, he saw me hate myself and go up and down for years.... he shared that pain with me and he was there to hold me and remind me that he loves me for me too during those times. That was support!

I was sleved 11/15 and I was very scared, but I'm doing great and I am glad I did it. Hopefully you will too. Feel free to reach out anytime for support, there is a lot of support here that was given to me and I'm happy to give it to you as well!

Hang in there!! You are not alone, we are all in this together and understand!

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Hello I too was sooo nervous I would break out in tears everytime I ate something a few weeks before the op. Everything I ate I felt like I was saying good bye how sad is that? My hubby asked me what are you scared of I was scared of change he told me choose health I say the same to you. Choose health food can never be a freind. Its okay to mourn but honestly it is not going anywhere. My hubby has been at the same weight since highschool he doesnt gain weight at all! I feel alone at times too reach out anytime. Your almost there! I was sleeved NOV 15th I almost changed my mind on that day but...so glad I didnt good luck!

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You will get a lot of support here. I did and was grateful for it. Sounds like your husband is trying the best he can. You will mourn food because I do. These are all normal feeling and we all have them. Just know that you will get lots of support and encouragement here. I was sleeved December 5 and have lost 23lbs and have had no problems. Just do what your doctor says and don't try and rush it. Congratulations on your decision for a healthy life. :)

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I feel and have felt the same way. I am new to the group and was sleeved 12/10. I am certainly not sorry but I sure miss my good buddy food. Or what I consider food which is really not.....it is junk. The head hunger is out of control at times but without the sleeve I would cave to my craving because I am truly addicted to food. I needed this procedure to lose the weight and I needed it and therapy to treat my addiction. Have faith, you won't be sorry you are doing this. It is drastic but for some of us it is the only way!

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