I've been married for 35 years and have weighed 105 to 200. My husband says he's been married to every size in the book and I've been stuck with the same ol' guy forever

I've been married for 14 yrs and my husband says we as woman are more bothered by our weight and appearance than they as men are. When they love us that's just what it is. Your husband loves you the good and the bad that you feel about yourself. Therapy may help but you have to love yourself as much as he does. Sounds like you don't believe you are worth loving. You and your marriage will be fine just keep loving him and allowing him to love you.

I hope everything works out for you. Once you get use to being sleeved ( like a routine ) it won't be such a big deal. You just get use to it and its just something you become comfortable with because it a part of you.

Hope that helped,

Jenipher

Hi,what Jenipher said is spot on.Therapy helps us to love ourselves and only then can we understand why and how others can love us the way they do.And only then can we love others the way they love us.

xxo

My bf and I are going to make 5 years in Feb. Together we both gained weight but you know how it goes the guy looks good but we girls just look fat. I feel weird with public displays of affection because i feel ppl looking and are thinking ewww why is he with her. And he tells my that I am beautiful all the time but it is so hard to believe.

He's excited for my decision and he is supporting me 100% but i am terrified that things will change after surgery. Either he wont feel attracted to me anymore, or my flabby skin will disgust him or he'll be upset when i want to go out more , or he'll become jealous of new extra attn.

We both have been through ups and downs and i feel like this will be another test in our relationship. What does not kill you will make you stronger and you never know until you try it. You need to love yourself first before you love others!

Hope you find yourself! And he will love you regardless! Good Luck!