Hi,sorry for all the loss in your life.

The problem with us overweight people is we do not have external coping skills.We often cope with food.Unfortunately the only ones to make the choice not to do that anymore is you (and me for myself)

You have to find an alternative to eating away the emotions.I find hard,agressive exercise to be the only thing that helps me.EVEN AND ESPECIALLY WHEN I DONT FEEL LIKE DOING EXERCISE,this is usually when I benifit most from it.

This results in weight loss that does make me feel better and more optimistic about life in general,which in turn helps me to cope with the stressess that we just cannot escape.

Good luck and hang in there.Life never just cycles in disaster.At some point you will be able to look back on these 2 very difficult years and sigh of releaf that things are looking up.

Thank you for your kind words. Yes, it is very sad and I need to cope differently other than reaching for comfort foods. Or at least try and reach for a glass of ice cold water! I will try, I promise my self and every wls person out there. We go through so much to get to this surgery and not fair to fail!!!

thank you for the pick me up

Writing your thoughts out is a good way of releasing the emotions that are locked away in your spirit.......keep a journal......also......gravitate to the things you like to do...if it is reading or walking or whatever........eating is just making things worse....because on top of all the pain, you are feeling horrible about this too....there is no longer any satisfaction for you in eating as a comfort......

I am so sorry for all that has happened to you..you have had more then your fair share of sadness....but eating isn't helping.......you seem like a fighter to me......losing 80 lbs is nothing to sneeze at........

So you have grown and changed......and fighting with yourself over your choices......

Look after yourself too......you need to care about yourself so you can help others and be there for them too....You will go on and come out of the other side of this stronger and a more compassionate person.....

hurting yourself in the process won't change anything that has or is happening.....don't punish yourself for things that are out of your control.....find another way to deal with it........All the best hun!