sorry to hear about your niece. Maybe she's disappointed about her complications, that's why she's shutting down on having the surgery. Keep being supportive, once she's in a better place in a medical stand point and see how well you are doing, she might give it a go again. I don't think you should feel guilty or feel wrong for being excited. I would be a little mindful around her. I have a feeling you two have a close relationship, so you will find a way to be there for each other(=

I sorry to hear that. I was told many people had the gallbadder out the same time they were sleeved. I hope everything else comes back ok for her. Just be auntie that never fails. Maybe research with her alternatives. I hope it works out.

Hi, I'm so sorry you're feeling sad. I can imagine you're disappointed. I'm sure you were really looking forward to having someone to go through this process with.

But you absolutely should not feel guilty!! You may have decided to do this together but you still had to come to your decision first. I would just let her know that you are there if she wants to talk about or if she changes her mind down the road you will be there to support and help her.

I have a feeling that once you go through it and she sees your success she may very well change her mind....and then you can be her mentor!

i understand how you feel but in the end you have to do what is right for you. you cant feel guilty for having joy for yourself because who else is going to feel as good as you do knowing that you made the right decision. things will happen for her eventually, it may just not be the right time right now. good luck to you and her!! congrats!!!