Dont feel guilty. You didn't create the problem for her anymore than she did for you. I'm sure she's happy for you. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to feel guilty, but to enjoy your success. be there for her and maybe some of the changed eating habits will help her. lower carbs, sipping water, etc.

good luck and congrats!

I understand TOTALLY - two of the most supportive women I know is struggling and trying - it hurts to see it.

One began losing before I even tried my "final" diet in January of '11 - was stalled and still crazy supportive and cried when we found out I had a stomach tumor (how I went about finally deciding on WLS) - but has not gave up, but feels the surgery is not for her, but I fear it is because it would be self pay and her business is struggling right now

Another started her diet in order to "follow me" - but can never get past the first twently pounds, she is yo-yoing in about 4-6 week unp and downs...

I want them to succeed so bad, but neither are in a position or claim to want the surgery, so I walk with them, talk with them, juice and eat healhy with them, and pray for us all, everyday!

I understand TOTALLY - two of the most supportive women I know is struggling and trying - it hurts to see it.One began losing before I even tried my "final" diet in January of '11 - was stalled and still crazy supportive and cried when we found out I had a stomach tumor (how I went about finally deciding on WLS) - but has not gave up, but feels the surgery is not for her, but I fear it is because it would be self pay and her business is struggling right now :(Another started her diet in order to "follow me" - but can never get past the first twently pounds, she is yo-yoing in about 4-6 week unp and downs...I want them to succeed so bad, but neither are in a position or claim to want the surgery, so I walk with them, talk with them, juice and eat healhy with them, and pray for us all, everyday!

Even though I feel terrible because it is painful to see her struggle, I told myself continuously last night that I need to be happy for my accomplishments and just be there for her in her time of struggle. I've been waiting so long to finally get healthy and stay healthy, I can't let any negativity get in the way of that. Thank you for your response and it's nice to know someone else is feeling what I am. xx

Dont feel guilty. You didn't create the problem for her anymore than she did for you. I'm sure she's happy for you. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to feel guilty, but to enjoy your success. be there for her and maybe some of the changed eating habits will help her. lower carbs, sipping water, etc.good luck and congrats!

Thank you so much for your encouraging words and you're right. And thank you! I'm having better luck then I thought I'd have with having this surgery.