Take a deep breath, and realize that you are a grown woman and can make your own decisions. People who don't live in our shoes always think that we are taking the easy way out, but we aren't. WLS is alot of hard work. Please don't kick your parents out of your life, just tell them your mind is made up and you do not want to discuss this matter with them anymore. This is the beginning of the rest of your life, so be happy on this new journey. You have all of us up here for moral support. HUGS

Parental stuff can suck. I think it's great that you're learning how his choice doesn't have to be your choice. I know how hard it is to do something that goes against what your parents want. This is all just a part of the process, a lot of this process sucks but in the end there's nothing better than getting stronger in who you are on the other side.

i feel ur pain hun. my brother and sister both questioned why i was doing this. my father (on mother's day no less) tells me that i don't have the will power to do this. i just need to go back to watching what i eat. i did the medifast diet and almost 40 lbs but had my gall bladder out 15 months ago and gained it all back and plus (still on medifast). he told me that i'm not serious about losing the weight again. he "sees" what i eat and it's like i don;t care anymore. really, he sees me eat maybe ever couple of months for a holiday or we go up to philly for a hockey game. had a surgery a week and a half ago and my mother was the only one to come see me. went to the house for fathers day today and he didn't say one word to me about it. i know it was my decision and my decision only to make but would be nice to have my families support too.

I'm so sorry that your family isn't supportive. This really is your decision and it's a good one - you are trying to get your life back!!! I don't know if you follow Dr. Oz, but he had a show that discussed weight loss surgery and totally supports people having this if they are more than 100 pounds over weight. He says that you would have surgery if you had cancer, right? Being morbidly obese is a disease just as much as cancer is, so the smart thing to do is to fix it!!!

I hope that your boyfriend is supportive because you will need that!! I wish you the best of luck!!

Family can be that way sometimes. Bottom line is that you need to clear the negativity from you life. i had to let a family member know that my decision was final and that if they did not support it or have anything nice to say that our relationship would be over. that person accepted it and apologized after they saw that the surgery changed my life for the better. you are having this surgery to change YOUR life. Stay strong and stay positive.