You need a therapist. Knowing what drives you to eat is good, but a therapist will help you understand WHY you chose eating as your drug of choice...and help keep you from developing crossover addictions.

I see a therapist to deal with my issues with food. I, like you, ate my emotions because I didn't have another outlet. Some of my "friends" don't like the changes in how I deal with things now, but that is their problem, not mine. If being friends with someone requires that I accept being treated like crap, then I don't need that "friendship".

Hopefully you can find a good bariatric therapist, but any therapist is better than none for these issues.

I am a psychologist and I agree. There is absolutely no shame in seeking professional help. Support online is good for physcial symptoms, but if you are battling serious emotional problems you should seek help. Believe me, I know what you are going through.

Like they said above, a therapist will help, but have you also thought about volunteering? I like to volunteer at a no-kill animal shelter because it not only lets me meet new people, but also feel good about giving something back. Also, cuddling with lots of animals will make anyone feel better! Also you could try Meetup.com and find local groups that may enjoy the same things you like. There's all sorts of groups; climbing, kayaking, arts/crafts, movie groups, etc. It's really cool and it's been a lifeline to me when I've moved to a new place. Do you like art? Most areas have art centers where you can learn to work with a variety of mediums. Maybe finding new fun things to do will help you find new friends, and perhaps lift your spirits. Good luck and keep us posted!

Thank you for your support... all of you. Funny thing is... I am a therapist. I work with behaviorally challenged teens.. so a different kind, yes. And you're right.. I used to talk to one and just kind of faded off. I know I should find another one... sooner than later. Surgery is scheduled for July 17. Thanks again!