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Ugh.... 3 Days Away

Kandi24z

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Well, I've been on an emotional roller coaster since deciding to have surgery. The first time I decided to have surgery was in 2010. I was very uneasy with the doctor so I changed my mind. I found a new doctor and staff I absolutely adore. The emotions I have range from fear to excitement to extreme nervousness etc. I don't know. That is how I found this site. I was looking for people that could understand my emotions. My family doesn't understand. Part of me wants to change my mind right now, the other part of me wants to do this and change my life. My initial decision to have surgery wasn't right. I was doing it for my mother and sister. I just technically wanted to fit in with them. I can't even admit that outloud to anyone. That is the part that makes me want to cry. They are really close, I've always been a daddy's girl but sometimes I wish I could go shopping with them and they wont tell me I'm to big or that makes me look fat. So after overcoming those feelings I had to regroup. I've been having bad dreams because of my nervousness and I have a extreme low tolerance for pain. I'm 25. I have no kids and no serious health problems except that I am obese, that was my decision maker. I wanted to prevent any major health problems and fix my life right now. I've always been bigger and yo yo my weight. I receive criticism because everyone says I'm to young to have this surgery and I need to exercise and stop eating etc... Don't they think I have tried that? Originally when I made my decision the person I am dating did not support me. We actually broke up for a while because they wanted me to change my mind. I knew that was something I could not do. I was tired of pleasing everyone and doing what they wanted me to do. Yet, on the other side I am doing what my mom pushed me to do. I chose my own surgery. I did not want a lap band or to have gastric bypass, I did my research and this was best for me. Did anyone else go through extreme emotions before surgery?



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I know exactly how you feel, I cried more than one river the days before my surgery. I am about 2 weeks out. I had all kinds of fears and emotions before. But I did it and now I am happy that I went through with it. I myself had no problems with the surgery or after. I got myself up after surgery and started walking the hall. I think that made a difference. I really did not experience much pain at all, I took the medicine they gave but it was only because I ddn't want to feel anything. I guess everyone is different but it is doable. I feel that everyone considering this has the same feelings, it is becaue of the unknown. I wish you only the best, and your family will always be your family so you will have to deal with them the best way you can. Do this for yourself - no one else.

After all the research I did, gastric sleeve is the best choice. Good luck!

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I'm in a similar situation....I'm a couple of years older, 33, still no kids and my only problem is that I'm obese....my suggestion is think about life afterwards...not the first couple of weeks (we know those will be rough) but think about being healthier, active....enjoying life....

My family is still asking me if I'm sure this is what I want to do, and I tell them, the alternative is living a short life, I rather live, thank you....

When I was your age I decided to have the lapband, because I was scared of the whole rerouting thing with RNY...now 7 years later, if taking 80% of my stomach is what must be done to help me, so be it....

Just remember the reasons why you made the decision for WLS, if you haven't write it down....so you can remind yourself of the positive...

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I appreciate the feedback. I'm glad to know I am not alone especially in my emotions. Today is a positive day. Tomorrow I do my preop test, blood work etc. We will see how that goes.

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Im in the same boat Kandi. Im 23 no children, no health issues and i haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaate Pain.. i also have the family members (grandmother) constantly pressuring me about my size. I've ALWAYS been the big cousin, sister, or friend. Im holding on to the fact that i have a chance to be the skinny minny now lol. my biggest fear is waking up in screaming pain or Puking!! but im gonna pray and keep going.. God got us girl!! :)

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i am still in the pre-op phase, but have alot of the same emotions you have. its really hard to choose to have surgery. When the doctor says you need to have your gall bladder removed... thats what you do. but when you CHOOSE to have surgery, then its easy to question yourself. my mom too has been pushing me to have surgery and she doesnt even know im in the process of getting approved. just because i dont want to hear about it. sad i know but i will tell her right before. i have started a list of all the things i will enjoy after my surgery. for example folding my laundry in front of people without being embarresed or my flip flops not going flat after a few weeks from all the weight they support. the list is to remind me of why i am having the surgery and i am even going to take it with me to the hospital just in case i have more pain then expected, i will have a list (about 3 pages so far) to remind me of the light at the end of the tunnel. i know your date is soon but maybe this list would help you too. i have even told my support buddy that i will give her a copy just in case she runs out of encouraging things to tell me, she'll have a go to list. best of luck with your surgery. i'm sure you will do great

stacey

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Thank you Stacey, a list is a great idea, I will write one tonight. I have to be to the hospital at 530 in the morning. The nerves have made me so nauseous today

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