Good for you but challenge your negative ding. Did she give you any negative review this year? Gather copies of any kudos from clients, co-workers, her, etc. Start with your lead and tell him, in an email you are going to raise a complaint that you feel you were discriminated agiainst due to your health issue. You mentioned a co worker that was let go due to illness - did she really warrant letting go? Perhaps this should go all the way to HR asap!

Major kuddos on a well-played first day back! Overall it sounds like you kicked butt!

I have a good boss but I have been in a position with another boss that told me I couldn't have a "smoke break" (i wanted the same 5 minutes people were getting to smoke to walk a quick pace around the building) because I didn't smoke. I took it to HR and won. He tried to have me let go for "performance" after that - after I got a 8 on a review scale of 8. Nope and I pushed it to the point they went through the people he let go or recommended be let go and he was demoted two months later.

"And wish the flees of a thousand camels infest her pants" <----- That is HILARIOUS!

Congrats! Your boss is difficult and mean spirited. Can you make an appeal with HR? Any ding is a ding and doesn't help us in any way. However, you are doing great to recognize how stress effects your mind and head hunger. Have a fun day!

Can I just say i love this forum. I feel like I've found friends from days gone by. Your supportive comments make my day. Regarding the Flee Infested One...there is perception & reality. I am working with an executive coach to help with "perception" but the reality is, there are some things in this universe that are beyond my control and influence. I agree, a ding is a ding. Can I mention this issue arrose in May of LAST YEAR. And she is still in there like swimwear, as if it has been a cancer I can get rid of. My coach tells me that I'm doing all the right things and I should gussy up my resume and prepare to market my fine self. I keep what I like to call, a HEROSHIMA log, you know just in case a bomb goes off, I will have my shrinking ass covered. I know this. The truth shall set you free.

Ugh, bosses. Some are great, and some drive you up the proverbial wall. I transferred within my company to another store and went from an atmosphere where I had full carte blanche in my daily duties to one where my manager micro manages us to death. Her redeaming factor is that she does care about us and is reasonable about schedule changes and whatnot. I, too, will be dusting off the ol' resume in another year . Good luck on your job hunt! I'm sure you'll find something so amazing that you'll want to stick your tongue out at your current boss and go, "na na na na naaaa. I've got a better job! ha ha ha". Juvenile, but oh-so-satisfying to imagine.

Best of luck!

~Lyra

Yeah I would wait until you recover before moving on so you feel more confident when interviewing.

Hi sthodge,

Thank you for your input and if you don't mind I have a question, I am having my surgery on 3/14/12 (VSG) and I am nervous about returning to work, I see you stated you returned to work barely two weeks after surgery, was it difficult to return so soon? Did you feel okay? I have a desk job and I am taking two wks, I know it varies from patient to patient but I would love to return before the two weeks. Any advisement would be so welcome! Thank you and Many Blessings on your Journey!!

P.S.: Awesome comment "Wishing flees of a thousand camels infest her pants" So Priceless!! Thumbs Up!

5'4"

250lbs

Goal Weight: 135lbs

age 43

Like your blog. I am scheduled for surger on April 19th and starting to get nervous. I'm 49 years old, 260 pounds and 5'3". Reading all this information is very helpful and encouraging.

I can't wait to start getting out of this fat suit!!!